If you’re looking for cold comfort then go for it. If you want more then you’ll probably realize quick that a 26 year old and a 51 year old have very different life goals. You probably want a career and potentially family, he might be looking at retirement, settling down, etc. Even if you are on similar wavelengths and make a go of it, he’ll be 75 and infirm while you’re 50. How many years would you like to play the role of respite nurse?
If he’s single then he’ll probably want to bang a 26 year old. That seems like a no brainer.
You said “was” so if you two are no longer professionally engaged and won’t be in the future, go for it!
Reach out to him and let him know you’re interested, but 100% are not looking for anything serious.
Then it’s up to him.
Remember in life the default state for interpersonal interaction is already “No.” (Meaning if you do nothing it’s like you did something, and they said “No.”) So never let the fear of “no” hold you back, because you’re already there unless you do something.
If you’re looking for cold comfort then go for it. If you want more then you’ll probably realize quick that a 26 year old and a 51 year old have very different life goals. You probably want a career and potentially family, he might be looking at retirement, settling down, etc. Even if you are on similar wavelengths and make a go of it, he’ll be 75 and infirm while you’re 50. How many years would you like to play the role of respite nurse?
If he’s single then he’ll probably want to bang a 26 year old. That seems like a no brainer.
I said I’m not looking for anything serious.
You said “was” so if you two are no longer professionally engaged and won’t be in the future, go for it!
Reach out to him and let him know you’re interested, but 100% are not looking for anything serious.
Then it’s up to him.
Remember in life the default state for interpersonal interaction is already “No.” (Meaning if you do nothing it’s like you did something, and they said “No.”) So never let the fear of “no” hold you back, because you’re already there unless you do something.
Thank you! great advice :)