Sorry for another “Is this autism or normal human behavior?” Post.

There’s a long story as to why I am experiencing this again but it’s not really any more relevant then the title of this post.

For older folk it’s like that episode of the Simpsons where Lisa, out of pity, give Ralf Wiggim a valentines day card and he immediately starts invisioning a future with her as his romantic parter.

I’ve identified I have this same trait and I hate it. Looking back I’ve totally made people who had been nothing but kind to me uncomfortable and shut me out because of this.

Now knowing that I am doing this is at least making me a little more in control and hopfully less weird. But now I need to stop and asses every interaction I have which is itself awkward.

  • r3df0x ✡️✝☪️@7.62x54r.ruEnglish
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    8 months ago

    It’s common among inexperienced males to get overly excited at female attention.

    It’s also common for men in general to assume that every woman who talks to them wants to have sex with them.

    • Seigest@lemmy.caOPEnglish
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      8 months ago

      Though I won’t argue the truth on that in some cases it’s not relevant to this situation.Your making a lot of assumptions here, and that might be my own lack of clarity in writing.

      Intrusive thoughts do not represent actual conscious feeling, this is why they are so repulsive to those experiencing them. They can be sexual sure. Intrusive thoughts can also be extreamly violent, or just weird. As an Ace I really do not like sexual thoughts and the conscious part of my brain whould much prefer focusing on work or food.

      We all do this to varying degrees. We can have fantasies about driving certian politicians into a slow chipper but that doesn’t mean I actually want to harm people. Maybe you want to beat a man to death for cutting you off in traffic. I’d be much happier if my mind didn’t go to such places but it does, in a more functional awake state the idea churns my stomach.

      I do wonder if being autistic means we are just more in touch with, and more repulsed by, our Intrusive thoughts.

      Also there is no females involved, I’ve never had intrest in men on any level but Intrusive thoughts don’t really work in sensible way.