• Cethin@lemmy.zip
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    4 months ago

    No, I implied that they were acting like petulant children instead of treating everyone including me with respect. You have to give respect to get respect.

    OK, so first respect is earned, not given. You don’t get to be respected just because you think you should be.

    Second, you were not giving them respect. If you want them to respect you then you should be respecting them first, based on your own logic. Calling them children is not doing this, therefore you don’t get to be respected.

    I have Asperger’s. I am accutely aware when I am doing something wrong.

    You clearly do not recognize when you’re doing something wrong. The Aspergers diagnosis makes things make sense, but it still isn’t an excuse. If you’re calling people children that is implying you’re an “elder” and above them. It is implying a position of superiority. Either it’s wrong to do this, like you said, and what you are doing is wrong or it isn’t wrong to do this and your stance on the subject is wrong. One of these must be true. Your behavior is hypocritical to what you’re saying. It doesn’t matter who started what. That’s childish to just point fingers and say “but they started it!”

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      4 months ago

      No, I implied that they were acting like petulant children instead of treating everyone including me with respect. You have to give respect to get respect.

      OK, so first respect is earned, not given. You don’t get to be respected just because you think you should be.

      That’s bullshit and that’s the root of your misunderstanding.

      You owe EVERYONE you deal with respect. It’s the golden rule in virtually every religion and every child is taught it. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

      Were I to run into any one of these people not glued to the road I would treat them with the same respect that I treat everyone else. I was raised properly by my parents.

      They have earned being treated like petulant children because they are acting like petulant children.

      You earn BACK respect once you’ve lost it. They lost it by acting like petulant children.

      Second, you were not giving them respect. If you want them to respect you then you should be respecting them first, based on your own logic. Calling them children is not doing this, therefore you don’t get to be respected.

      My first interaction with them was them acting like petulant children so I responded appropriately.

      It’s like commiting a crime then crying about being treated like a criminal. You don’t do A then B doesn’t happen. You don’t get to winge about the fact that B happened when you did A. This is a VERY simple concept.

      I have Asperger’s. I am accutely aware when I am doing something wrong.

      You clearly do not recognize when you’re doing something wrong. The Aspergers diagnosis makes things make sense, but it still isn’t an excuse. If you’re calling people children that is implying you’re an “elder” and above them.

      I’ve been very clear. They acted like children so they were treated like children. Had they not acted like children I would have treated them like adults. Why can’t you understand this?

      It is implying a position of superiority.

      It’s not implying anything. It’s making VERY clear that they are acting like children and that I am treating them like children. There is no hidden message. I’ve been VERY clear about this all along.

      Either it’s wrong to do this, like you said, and what you are doing is wrong or it isn’t wrong to do this and your stance on the subject is wrong.

      That’s false logic.

      They did A and I reacted like they did A and did B. The way to solve this issue is for them not to have done A so that I wouldn’t have treated them like they did A and done B. If A hadn’t happened B wouldn’t have happened.

      Stop whinging about the response and start dealing with the cause. Act like adults if you want to be treated like adults. It’s VERY simple.

      OYour behavior is hypocritical to what you’re saying.

      No, it isn’t. I’ve been very clear. They acted like children and got treated like children. If they stop acting like children I will stop treating them like they’re acting like children.

      It doesn’t matter who started what.

      THERE it is. THAT is the root of your entire argument. We don’t like being treated like children because we acted like children so ignore the fact that we’re acting like children and treat us like adults.

      No.

      That’s childish to just point fingers and say “but they started it!”

      STOP POINTING OUT THAT WE’RE ACTING LIKE CHILDREN!

      No.

      There is literally nothing that you can say other than correcting the ORIGINAL issue to change this situation. I don’t like the way you’re treating us for acting like children is not going to solve the problem. Grow up, put on your big boy/girl/they pants, and start acting like a adults and people will treat you like adults.

      We’re done here.

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        4 months ago

        Grow up, put on your big boy/girl/they pants, and start acting like an adult and people will treat you like adults.

        There you go again. I haven’t called you names at all, and now you’re saying I’m immature and you’re better. You keep acting superior and keep saying that’s wrong to do. Whatever. You aren’t going to see the error.