Description: A meme in two pictures and two text boxes. The upper image shows an anime-style character, joyous and smiling, surrounded by twinkling stars. The text next to them says: “You realize you’re trans.”
The lower image shows the same character, staring in despair, surrounded by darkness. The text next to them says: “You realize you’re trans.”

  • glorkon@lemmy.world
    8·
    27 days ago

    I realized I am not trans but incredibly envious of hot women and their ability to have sex whenever they like. WHENEVER they like. That sometimes makes me dream of being a woman, having this privilege to act all decent but blow and fu** as often as I please.

    But then I realize that as an ugly middle aged fuck, my biggest fantasy always was being sexually attractive (at least a little bit), so I keep searching the web for porn that fuels this fantasy, quietly weeping inside and pathetically wanking my way to my grave.

    • Samvega@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      15·
      27 days ago

      I realized I am not trans but incredibly envious of hot women and their ability to have sex whenever they like. WHENEVER they like.

      What?

      • scoobford@lemmy.zip
        3·
        26 days ago

        An attractive woman can have sex basically whenever she wants. The issue is that you’ll be having sex with an unattractive and/or disrespectful partner.

        If being a woman is dying of thirst on a raft in the ocean, this guy is stuck in the desert and wants to see the ocean. Both people are dying of thirst even though they are in different places.

        • Samvega@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          3·
          26 days ago

          An attractive woman can have sex basically whenever she wants.

          I definitely know more attractive women who have given up on relationships because of abuse than I do any women who says that they have sex ‘whenever they want’. But maybe they don’t talk to me about it because I’m asexual, and I am not interested.

    • Tanis Nikana@lemmy.world
      4·
      26 days ago

      Pick any or all from this list that may help:

      • Lose weight and adopt a fitness routine.
      • Find clothing that fits, is in style, and looks like you dress with a bit of effort. Avoid graphic t-shirts and jeans paired together. Clothing shouldn’t be loose, and should fit your body well.
      • Groom yourself. Shave your face, sculpt your beard. Learn light makeup. Shower, brush your teeth, and perhaps see a dentist; if your mouth smells like decay, no one’s gonna kiss you.
      • Expend effort on what you look like.
      • Change mindset and behavioral patterns. Be presentable, well-dressed, and clean, and don’t hunt for women; male-attracted women will come around sometimes.

      It really is about taking care of yourself. No one would want a guy who doesn’t take care of himself. For that matter, when women exhibit similar, they’re ignored and rejected as well.

      You got this.