If we can avoid massive collective issues that would be appreciated as there is very little agency the individual has to address those and that helpless ess can often extend to the more solvable individual matters we all grapple with but also occasionally rise to conquer.
I’ve been living with my parents for almost 2 years now after graduating from university. Now, I have a job that pays me just enough to live off of and I’ve been wanting to move back to the city where I lived for University. But, my situation is as follows that prevents me from doing so. My dad has a condition, one of the worst conditions you can get, you can probably guess what it is and please don’t say what it is because I don’t like the word. Because of this, my dad can no longer work, and my mom has been trying to find work so I’m taking care of things. And, because of this condition, home life isn’t as great as it used to be and my mental health has deteriorated to nearly nothing. I don’t know what to do and how to get everything back to normal. I’ve been looking for apartments but how can I leave in good consciousness knowing what I’m leaving? I’m stuck and I cannot move literally and figuratively.
So shouldn’t he apply for disabillity or something? Not to be unkind but you can’t keep your parents warm by setting yourself on fire.
Are they making it that way, like do they act manipulatively or threaten you or harm you in any way?
They’re working on it. I think maybe something may happen with it by the end of this month? And don’t worry, I know I’m burning myself to warm them. I’m trying to fix that a bit. No, it’s not me that’s the target. The condition is straining all of our emotions and things are just in general not as happy anymore.
What about moving out to a nearby apartment? That way you can still be close to help your parents but have your own space to retreat to.
Thank you all for the advice. I’ve made a decision and I’m going to be moving to the city. My dad is in relatively good health right now so I think we can manage. Again, thank you all. I really appreciate it
All of you being burnt out all the time isn’t helping anyone. You have to take care of yourself, you’ll be much better able to help and contribute to your family when you’re in a better mental and physical state. I’d suggest (as someone else did) to find a place relatively nearby so you can still help but at least have your own spacer. Good luck!