Life is also full of people thinking that if others followed their exact steps there would be no way they could turn their life around. They’re often just as wrong.
Yeah, the logic seems sound but is a bit what-about.
The problem is that it is a lot of luck and some strong resolve but the luck is very important.
People should grab the reigns of their life and try to get out of a bad situation but if life paths barely work for motivation then life paths to get out of sharing the same odds does make it quite the uphill battle.
I just want to recognize that as trying so hard to get that perfect life turnaround is like winning the lottery and while people shouldn’t stop trying I don’t want them to be burned out by the lack of response to their efforts in this complicated world.
Part of the issue I have is that what you’re saying is technically correct (the best kind). But I think it’s only right for a very small amount of people. It feels good to say that you just want to recognize that there are people who can’t do it, but saying that in this type of discussion gives that demographic the feeling of equivalent weight when they’re a very small portion comparatively and gives the false impression that there are enough people who straight up can’t do it that anyone reading that can just assume they fall into that category and never try. Most people can change or turn their life around, there’s just a culture of patting each other on the back and saying “not everyone can do it”.
I think part of that also comes from something else you said: “I just want to recognize that as trying so hard to get that perfect life turnaround is like winning the lottery”. The culture I mentioned comes from this binary attitude of deciding either you’re going to go all the way and get that perfect life or you’re just one of the unlucky ones who shouldn’t try. But turning your life around can happen in so many positive ways that don’t include getting a perfect life.
Life is also full of people thinking that if others followed their exact steps there would be no way they could turn their life around. They’re often just as wrong.
Yeah, the logic seems sound but is a bit what-about.
The problem is that it is a lot of luck and some strong resolve but the luck is very important.
People should grab the reigns of their life and try to get out of a bad situation but if life paths barely work for motivation then life paths to get out of sharing the same odds does make it quite the uphill battle.
I just want to recognize that as trying so hard to get that perfect life turnaround is like winning the lottery and while people shouldn’t stop trying I don’t want them to be burned out by the lack of response to their efforts in this complicated world.
Part of the issue I have is that what you’re saying is technically correct (the best kind). But I think it’s only right for a very small amount of people. It feels good to say that you just want to recognize that there are people who can’t do it, but saying that in this type of discussion gives that demographic the feeling of equivalent weight when they’re a very small portion comparatively and gives the false impression that there are enough people who straight up can’t do it that anyone reading that can just assume they fall into that category and never try. Most people can change or turn their life around, there’s just a culture of patting each other on the back and saying “not everyone can do it”.
I think part of that also comes from something else you said: “I just want to recognize that as trying so hard to get that perfect life turnaround is like winning the lottery”. The culture I mentioned comes from this binary attitude of deciding either you’re going to go all the way and get that perfect life or you’re just one of the unlucky ones who shouldn’t try. But turning your life around can happen in so many positive ways that don’t include getting a perfect life.