Sisyphus55 makes videos about psychology and philosophy. In this video he specifies the issue of learned helplessness is obviously not indemic to only men but I wanted to post it here because I think education surrounding learned helplessness and resilience politics is pretty gendered.
White men are pretty behind on the notion that lack of resilience is a notion of proponganda, I’m specifically learning about it late in my life after having spent decades being an annoying but functional little worker bee. Hopefully videos like this can help someone else pick up the pieces after the personality collapse we tend to go through. His insights have been helpful to me.
Thanks for sharing and being so open about it.
To follow up on your point in your post, recently I also find it very hard for myself to know or feel what level of industriousness and being a bit of a workaholic is still healthy for myself and at what threshold it becomes toxic.
I just kind of like to get stuff done and work and keep myself somewhat busy but either way overthinking it always feels like this could also just be me running away from stuff. Not really something where I myself have figured anything out but I thought it might be fitting to share.
To the topic of resilience: Sometimes I just have to sit with uncomfortable feelings and be okay with them and then it improves when I talk with friends about it. Sometimes it just needs time to pass and sometimes I just really have to confront the issue and either make my voice heard or find ways to get myself out of a situation. While it gets better with practice sometimes, I would say the bigger impact it has had on me is that I feel that I can trust myself more that if something bothers me I should try to investigate why and that it’s worthwhile to follow up on my feelings.
Just to add to the topic and your post. Thanks for sharing :)
sad_detective_man? Nah, more like insightful_detective_man, thanks for sharing this video / channel!