Funny story: because I was always late, my old group started giving me earlier times to show up.
Because these times aligned better with my trains and subways, I started showing up on time.
Except they’d lied to me going my being late would actually make me arrive at the same time as everyone else.
But now I was half an hour early and they were unprepared.
If you can’t align your trains and subways with your agreed upon time, you still need to take the earlier train and be there 30 minutes earlier. That’s just how it works. You take the transport that gets you there before the time, not what gets you there closer to but after the time.
Disrespecting other people’s time is a shitty cultural trait. And I say that as someone from a country where everyone leaves home at the time they should be arriving.
I can repeat the same refrain as above, but instead I’ll say that if the wide cultural impulse is to keep times loose, then there is no disrespect of peoples time. Casual starts and stops for an event that everyone understand are very respectful, as they grant everyone full autonomy.
You may not enjoy a loose time table, but that dosent make the trait “shitty.” It makes it something you dont like is all.
That works for an informal dinner between friends, it doesn’t work for something where everyone needs to be present. There’s nothing that pisses me off more than having something important to do, and having people arrive randomly on a 40 minute span after the scheduled time.
Depends on the friend group, honestly. I can see scenarios where people aren’t ready to have guests half an hour earlier than expected.
Though, this is why communication is important; if you ask the host if 30 minutes early is preferable to 15 minutes late, you’ll get the answer that works for them.
Funny story: because I was always late, my old group started giving me earlier times to show up. Because these times aligned better with my trains and subways, I started showing up on time. Except they’d lied to me going my being late would actually make me arrive at the same time as everyone else. But now I was half an hour early and they were unprepared.
If you can’t align your trains and subways with your agreed upon time, you still need to take the earlier train and be there 30 minutes earlier. That’s just how it works. You take the transport that gets you there before the time, not what gets you there closer to but after the time.
Depends on the culture.
You’re right that it does, but it should not.
That’s just your cultural preference shining through.
Disrespecting other people’s time is a shitty cultural trait. And I say that as someone from a country where everyone leaves home at the time they should be arriving.
I can repeat the same refrain as above, but instead I’ll say that if the wide cultural impulse is to keep times loose, then there is no disrespect of peoples time. Casual starts and stops for an event that everyone understand are very respectful, as they grant everyone full autonomy.
You may not enjoy a loose time table, but that dosent make the trait “shitty.” It makes it something you dont like is all.
That works for an informal dinner between friends, it doesn’t work for something where everyone needs to be present. There’s nothing that pisses me off more than having something important to do, and having people arrive randomly on a 40 minute span after the scheduled time.
Wasting other peoples time is a dick move, using your culture as an excuse for being inconsiderate is an even bigger dick move
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No, they’re correct. People need to be more respectful of others, especially when it comes to things with hard start times like D&D, a concert, etc.
Depends on the friend group, honestly. I can see scenarios where people aren’t ready to have guests half an hour earlier than expected.
Though, this is why communication is important; if you ask the host if 30 minutes early is preferable to 15 minutes late, you’ll get the answer that works for them.
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