Oh my god the uni days of throwing these callings to people whose name you didn’t know, on a dedicated anonymous Facebook group page hoping they’d read it…

It’s such a cool and deeply human little thing to do, I love it so much

Good luck girl ❣️

I see. The shadows that a snarky fatphobic internet casts on that language (“average [x] user”, “moobs”) are heavy, and it was hard for me to see the attempt to reclaim.

Also, crossdressing is based.

Oh! I came back to check on this post two weeks later, and I see I got recognized! What a lovely gift, makes me feel seen, thank you.

Why sling around insults like this?

It feels like “You can take the user out of Reddit, but you can’t take Reddit out of the user”, lol

Cmon. Just let people be people.

You making those breast forms sounds cool. How come you did? Some costume?

Look, I upvoted your comment because it’s a really good explanation, but I think you missed the sarcasm in her meme-y comment, that probably makes fun of homophobes refusing to understand gay sex

Provided he made gold for her, and didn’t make her gold, I’m with him

(By “you” you might mean kaseki, not me, I’m not the OP of the post she commented on, but the emotion is appreciated <3)

First of all, it’s going to be ok.

Your situation might be truly rough. Not being allowed to experiment, and express whatever it is that brings you joy, is an undoubtedly painful situation.

My read on your situation, is just that you’re in a learned-helplessness state, and also kinda depressed, that’s why you can’t find it in you to seek what you might want.

The first stages of transition, whether you’re going full Trans Woman, or just trying to find your gender, are rough, and they require effort, and energy, and trial and error, even on the best of days.

I think your body knows that, and is telling you to rest, and build up your energy, because it sounds like you’re not living the best of days.

And that’s ok.

I’d say, you don’t have to worry about whether you’re trans. Not because “You just are”, but because “You’re allowed to be something complicated”, and you don’t have to answer that right now.

Now is the time to take care of yourself.

Since you mentioned the NHS, if I’m not wrong, you’re in England, so I’m going to ask someone I know about a trans health clinic over there, which might be able to help you. If you tell me some info about where you are (in DM if you want, which city for example) I can ask what support might exist in your area.

Honestly, speaking from experience, it’s ok to be depressed when things are objectively Shit.

It’s ok not to know, when you don’t have the opportunity to find out.

It’s truly going to be ok, it’s just going to take some time and thought and effort, for you to understand the things that are going on, and work on them.

It does sound like you’re already very aware of your pain and joy, so I believe you’ve got the most difficult part behind you ❤️

I hope you’re well, and trust me, and the rest of the people that are going to be writing and helping: You’re a wonderful person, and you’re going to create a life worth living ❤️

Hmm, yeah, you and I see very very different things in the show.

For me, Gummygoo was one of the pylons, that made the show what it is.

Even just functionally for the plot, his death(murder) fucked Pomni up, being one of the most important parts (and triggers) of her character growth, leading to everything else that Pomni made happen in the show. (It also gave characterization for Cain, but that’s just characterization, not plot, so yeah)

But I guess each person sees and cares about different parts of an art work.

Is part of your take,

“Time spent on Gummigoo was unnecessary for the whole story”?

Can you explain your thoughts on this?

I see how you could read a version of this post that wasn’t mean spirited, as you describe.

But this specific post, doesn’t do that good-will commentary that you describe.

They’re not pet-baby-anarchists, they’re pet anarchists.

The examples it’s using, are not the real problems one has, when first starting to get out of authoritarianism (inner cops we all have in us), they’re fucking production problems, which are

trivially

easy to answer and reconstruct in good faith, it just takes time to explain, because we live in nested systems of violence, and have been bullied to think that that’s reality.

This post relies on you assuming:

decentralized production is stupid,

in order to, by extension, say that

anarchists are stupid.

In this way, anyone who has suspicions about one of the two maybe being true, can be convinced that both are true.

Textbook fascistic propaganda methods, literally out of Nazi Minister of Propaganda’s playbook.

Sorry, but in the interest of being brief, I’d say you’re being victim-blamey. I bet your intentions are good, but we’re taught to think in this toxic way:

“If all anarchists had good takes, {others wouldn’t attack them}.”

“If baby anarchists never spoke until fully fledged, [we wouldn’t have this problem].”

“If she didn’t buy a taser and get self defense training, <she shouldn’t dress like that>.”

Yeah, no. When someone attacks, keep your attention on the attacker.

Not gonna lie, this feels disingenuous.

It’s just political bait disguised as a “meme”.

It doesn’t even contain any good discourse about anarchism, just tired tropes of infantilisation.

Eh, why even post this?

Oooh, yes please, I also wanna know

Btw it’s not the same color as the background, it’s transparent. My background is ‘Material You’ (thank you Jerboa <3) and it still works, even if it’s an unusual color

Yep, he’s Casper from “The Common Grounds”.

Top tier work.

I don’t know if it’s worth reclaiming, I, at least, have no need for the reclaimed meaning of the word, but, very very simply, “reclaiming fascist words good”, in general.

So, if someone wants it, I think it should be accepted and supported.

Haha, yeah, on the gpt thing, remember, LLMs as they are implemented today, are the Plagiarism Machines.

Rich fucks trained their models on the entirety of the internet, and what is the internet full of? Forums of people giving useful information to each other. People who learned to format their responses using Markdown (what gives you the italics-bold-bullets-etc to use, here on Lemmy as well), as best they could, to get their points across.

Text that is, in my opinion just well written, has become the aesthetic of chat gpt and others, like innumerable other times in the history of rich assholes. And that makes me feel both mad, and mad (lol).

I went back to the original comment, and dialed down the appeasement, and increased the passive-aggressiveness, to get my point more across, and be less “LLMy”, in the first couple sentences haha

Honestly the use of “datal” does sound really interesting and cool! It makes sense in today’s context, and fills an interesting niche, for which I can’t think of another word right now.

And it being a pleasure to speak with me, is a great compliment, haha, thank you 😄

Also based on you using

societal memeplex

Have you read qntm’s Antimemetics division, like so many other trans people? I swear, when I heard the Wachowski sisters use the word “memetics” in an interview, I was so excited. If you haven’t, I highly recommend it, I think you personally, would like it a lot, from what I can tell about you.

Nah it’s fine. There was no LLM involved in that text wall (and I’m pretty sure I’m not autistic lol), I just like talking more than I should, and the formatting was because I was kinda in appeasement-mode, while trying to get the warnings out.

I have also faced pointless warnings and stupid attempts by clueless doctors to dissuade me from HRT, so I get where you’re coming from, and that’s sure to be what many people need to hear. But for me, because I’m anxious, the knowledge of where the actual dangers are, has done so much to help me go ahead with leaps of faith until now. So I wanted this info to be out there too.

Also “datal”, that’s a new word. Was hard to find definitions, one was “contains dates”, and the other two were “slang for slow/dumb” lol. Well, I’ll assume you meant something ‘data’ related haha

Well fuck. Communication is hard. What are you trying to say? Or is this conversation kinda overdone and missing the point? I am genuinely curious about what you think in this case, you don’t have to work to convince me of something.