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6 days agoMake a video telling people you’ve moved
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Time travel/alternate dimension stories that don’t just use infinite dimensions as a cheap way of avoiding complexity. Once you have infinite timelines, it’s all meaningless, because whatever story you’re trying to tell loses all sense of importance, because whatever didn’t happen in one version still happens in another. Who cares if the character saves their family, when there are an infinite variety of worlds where they’re not saved.
It’s possible to tell stories about infinite timelines, where the weirdness of having infinite duplicates is an important part of the story (Dark Matter).
It’s possible to tell stories where there are alternate timelines, but only a finite number (The Peripheral/Counterpart/Alice)
And it’s possible to tell stories where there is only one timeline, and gracefully navigate the paradox (The Pern Series/All You Zombies/11.22.63)
I can’t get enough of stories that handle it well!
18·17 days agoWhen I was 19/20 (decades ago) I moved to the city to go to University. One of my housemates came out as trans many years later, and a few years before me, but while we were in the house, both of us were closeted and in denial.
He and I used to sit on the front deck of the house, playing cards and talking in to the night. I often wonder what would have happened in both of our lives if at any point, we had have got to talking about gender, and felt comfortable coming out to each other (and ourselves) way back then.
But, we didn’t have that conversation then… We both still found our way though. You will too :)
Dreaming Spanish. It’s an online video based approach, but their very early stage lessons basically do what the OP was talking about, in video form. They’ll tell a story about a kid who goes on an excursion at school and gets up to mischief, and they’ll flash in pictures and drawings to make sure you understand the context of what they’re saying.
The further you get in to it, the less they use images and drawings, but in the early stages, they’re a core part of the system
53·24 days agoSo, some points of clarification.
The rules of the community are regularly ignored or not seen by posters, and the mods regularly have to remind men accidentally posting to the community of the rules. This happens on pretty much every single post to the community. The mods generally check the posting history of new users and try to determine whether or not the person is a man, before replying with a rules reminder. That’s a huge body of work, and they’ve increased their mod team to make it more sustainable.
Rather than removing the posts outright (which is what I would do if I ran the community), they generally leave the posts in place, and politely tell people the rules.
On top of that, the community has enabled a piefed option that explicitly tells people it’s a women’s only community and to read the rules before they post, but this feature is not compatible with lemmy, and so lemmy posters do not see it.
Also, before the community migrated here, the mods consulted with me on how to approach the nature of a women’s community in the gender diverse community where not everyone falls in to the binary. I suggested an approach similar to the one roller derby takes, in which anyone who isn’t cis and binary gets to decide for themselves whether or not a women’s community is a good fit for their identity, and they took that onboard as you can see in the groups rules.
And finally, the mod team are in regular contact with me via their dedicated mod matrix channel, which I idle in.
All of which is to say, I’m quite happy that the community in question is inclusive in the ways that it needs to be to have a space on blahaj zone.
Now, with that specific poster, the mods checked the users post history before replying with the rules reminder. In their post history, the poster had previously explicitly identified as a man, stated that they don’t identify as gay, and that they have a wife and kids, whilst having no obvious post history in any queer or gender diverse communities.
And then their first comment in a women’s community, where the topic at hand was women navigating interacting with men in a way that doesn’t put them in danger or make the men hit on them, this user came along and made a post that basically translated as “Actually, women are a problem too”
After that, the mods then started a discussion about how to approach the situation.
On top of that, the person has a long moderation history that includes insults, sending inappropriate DMs and comments like this “but he/she is kind of a dick. watch me get banned for this”
All of which is to say, I am quite happy that they did their homework and didn’t make any unreasonable assumptions
4·28 days agoI haven’t got this game yet, but if I’d have known it was the same folk that were behind Telltales Walking Dead, I’d have grabbed it weeks ago! That game was one of the most powerful experiences I’ve had in gaming, so I’m looking forward to this one much more now!
If only it wasn’t so cold! :)
I’ve never seen snow except through an airplane window
It depends on what those opposing viewpoints are. If they involve actively targeting and harming vulnerable people, I have no space at all for those viewpoints or the people that hold them.
For the other stuff, maybe a 7.
Speaking from my own experience, I would say it’s effective, but not fast, but leads to better results in the end.
None of that is why I use it though. I simply enjoy it more this way.
I’ve been learning Spanish though a similar method
Well, in that regards, they’re similar to blahaj, as in, our instance doesn’t just have trans communities. Our user base is focused on trans and gender diverse folk however. Hexbear, similarly, has all sorts of communities, but their userbase is focused on shared politics, even though their areas of discussion are not restricted to that.
Hexbear is very protective of it’s trans users and it has a lot of them. But its “specialist area” is politics.
I think it’s a good thing, because it discourages centralisation. If we end up with a bunch of specialist instances, then diversity suffers, because everyone looking for a specific area will end up on the one single specialist instance dedicated to it.
And I say that as the admin of an instance focused on the trans and gender diverse folk. There is a reason that we don’t enforce specialisation on those topics in our instance communities though. Even so, we still tend to be “the trans instance”, when I’d much prefer it if we were just one of many, like we are on the microblog part of the fediverse.
Sorry, I was trying to be outright hostile, not passively.
There are no widely federated edgelord instances at this point in time
It’s something that you would not have thought, let alone said, if a cis woman had talked about enjoying her date having an erection when they hugged. Your comment served no point except to diminish the positivity that a trans person was feeling after a positive dating experience. If you read the sidebar, this particular community is “a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people”
Nothing you said was supportive, and this community is not the place for it.
Hey. This isn’t a trans specific community. Blahaj Lemmy meta is for people needing to talk to the admins, or talk about issues with our lemmy instance etc.
There’s lots of trans communities it would belong in though!
!trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone would be a good fit
1·2 months agoYou should include a link to the community in the format people can use to access it locally on their own instances.
I don’t understand. Why not do whatever you normally do to edit and post videos?