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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • I almost always agree with the positions helf by Quebec and whose influence they defend at the political level

    Quebec often has to be the one to say the things that nobody else can get away with politically but that is a necessary hard truth like forceful seperation of church and state and being choosier about how much immigration they calculate they are able to meaningfully support and integrate.

    Not that they are perfect or not spoiled due to their realpolitik unique status in Canada but there’s benefits to having an influential distinct society within that can operate more sensibly in the face of some untenable and less defensible trends that are otherwise seemingly impossible to countenance






  • The only actual advice I can think of that relates is refusing to be involved with people who make you unhappy (which I realize so much of requires choice and resources to island yourself off in this way).

    Its still something to keep in mind, if you can insulate yourself from people you’ve noticr make you unhappy and overstimulated, that is a very different state of being even saying nothing about whatever “happiness” is. I think you can still like or love someone who you also cannot emotionally and ohysically tolerate being around, but sooner or later you have to listen to what your being tries to tell you or somatically express

    If I had to choose between happiness or freedom from pain, I would choose the latter every time. Happiness can be stumbled upon or negotiated or gradually arriver at, pain needs to be alleviated or it cancels out everything else




  • Don’t engage with people like that. This is one area you must be selfish and refuse to deal with others who bring you down, regardless of their reason. You can’t burn yourself up to keep others warm and expect to thrive and feel decently.

    Just let them know you cant talk to people who make you feel like crap and unpredictably and block them so they can’t impose further. Try not to worry about why or empathizing because you need to focus on keeping your ship afloat and house in order and do that requires you to respect yourself by not harming yourself and exposing yourself to toxic others. Thats a good way to become distrustful and self-sabatoging if you allow people like that into your sanctum of influence. Your life and network are a temple, don’t let vandals and thieves and vampires in. Keep your enemies/toxicity far away, try to learn from them at a distance in an objective way but do not rely on them to necessarily improve or feel better.

    I’ve made a practice of this for myself (doesnt matter if its family or friends or otherwise) and I’ve definitely been on the receiving end and today I understand why and everyone is honestly better off for it. Your time is not charity and you are not a punching bag, try to act thusly