So to preface this is posted in literature.cafe’s meta community but this
question is primarily aimed at generally anyone in the lemmyverse who is NOT a
cisgender man no matter what instance they may be in. The purpose of this thread
is to present a stage for conversation for those willing to contribute, and
although cisgender men are not excluded I kindly ask you to be mindful of the
fact what this thread is meant for and try to avoid talking over others here. If
you are a cisgender man interested in learning and seeing how lemmy can improve
like I am: welcome. For those who are here to cause issues or talk over others
though, you will be promptly removed. I do not know the demographic data of
lemmy, but I would wager a large portion are male. And over the past few weeks I
have witnessed women on numerous occasion discuss their discomfort on here.
Reddit very much had a very “bro-y” feeling culture for many, that felt like a
barrier to entry to many women. With lemmy, there’s a potential to break this.
But the answer really is how? Lemmy has begun to develop into its own culture
already independent of Reddit quite rapidly, and it’s been awesome to see but I
am wondering if there’s a way we can push it a step further and implement ways
to make the platform more welcoming to women than Reddit previously did.
Thoughts?
Conversation ongoing over there, inviting anyone who wants to participate to please consider sharing their thoughts if they are willing to. If you wanna post in the original thread from your instance copy and paste the link into your instances search panel
As I said in the thread, if you aren’t comfortable posting feel free to DM me here or on matrix and I can post anonymously for you.
i definitely think it’s possible. anything has the potential to grow and change if we choose to prioritize it.
“you are not entitled to nice”
a few months ago, on a different social media website, i posted something controversial (which IMO should not be controversial, anyways) and a friend made a very similar post. my friend was assumed to be a white man, while i was assumed to be a BIPOC woman. he received praise for his post and i did not see any criticisms of his views. my post was immediately criticized. various users told me that my drama wasn’t welcome here, i’m attention seeking, etc. when i asked one user why they were being so hostile to me, they responded with the quote above.
this was just one of the many demonstrations of misogyny that i’ve faced in the past 3 months online. it’s tiring as hell to deal with it.
i definitely think it’s possible. anything has the potential to grow and change if we choose to prioritize it.
“you are not entitled to nice”
a few months ago, on a different social media website, i posted something controversial (which IMO should not be controversial, anyways) and a friend made a very similar post. my friend was assumed to be a white man, while i was assumed to be a BIPOC woman. he received praise for his post and i did not see any criticisms of his views. my post was immediately criticized. various users told me that my drama wasn’t welcome here, i’m attention seeking, etc. when i asked one user why they were being so hostile to me, they responded with the quote above.
this was just one of the many demonstrations of misogyny that i’ve faced in the past 3 months online. it’s tiring as hell to deal with it.