• candyman337
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    9 months ago

    When I was younger I really didn’t get societal norms super well, a girl asked me to rate her and I thought she was not ugly, not gorgeous, I gave her a 7 out of 10. She was offended lol. Didn’t even realize she was flirting with me until years later lmao

      • RaivoKulli
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        99 months ago

        It’s basically just asking if you think they’re cute lol

          • RaivoKulli
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            59 months ago

            Well yeah they’re obviously hoping you’d call them cute lol

          • @sock@lemmy.world
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            49 months ago

            you call a girl a 10 if they ask. that’s just how you play that situation there’s no reason to think about it.

            im not sure how old u r but when u start talking to girls (or dudes? idk if this works gayly) let them fish for compliments. its not a bad thing to play the game they want to play sometimes.

              • @sock@lemmy.world
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                49 months ago

                adults don’t do anything specifically everyone is different and there’s no reason to generalize some arbitrary normality that your parents taught you in a vacuum

                most sane people dont fish for compliments that blatantly sometimes you just gotta be nice. unless you disagree then you just sound boring to be around.

    • @Psythik@lemm.ee
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      289 months ago

      You fell for one of the oldest tricks in the book.

      In the future, when a girl asks you to rate her, the answer is always 10.

      • candyman337
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        119 months ago

        No I just tell people I don’t rate people that way. Because for one my attraction is not based on appearance mostly, and also no one is a 10 to me because no one is perfect, so they’ll never be happy with the answer. So I outright refuse with that reasoning. Like I’m not gonna rate the girl over there that’s clearly pretty who may be more physically attractive just so I can rate you lower physically despite caring for you more and finding you way more attractive overall.

        • JackbyDev
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          99 months ago

          You sound like the dude in the image lol. I don’t mean that in a bad way, just a funny observation. I get it too, because whenever my friends and I see a movie we have these sort of debates. I rate 1 to 5 and everyone else does 1 to 10. I say I can’t do 1 to 10 because it is too granular and it’s a subjective thing anyways. It’s funny how something so simple as “rate X on a scale of whatever” can turn into such a massive dilemma.

          • candyman337
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            59 months ago

            I mean with friends sure ok, but it’s a loaded question when it’s from a potential SO or already SO, and I’m not playing that game

            • JackbyDev
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              39 months ago

              Yeah of course, but I’d only be giving out 2, 4, 6, 8, and 10. Even apart from that they all use numbers different. I try to do it where 4 stars mean I really liked it an 5 stars means I LOVED it. But a lot of them refuse to give 10 because they don’t want to say anything is “perfect.” I have given a few 6 star rating just as a way to communicate it’s one of my all time favorites (Spider verse 2019, Everything Everywhere All at Once, Puss & Boots the last wish are some examples) which is sort of similar to them giving a 10 but some of them seriously just never give 10s. I use 6 stars as more of a “5 star but let me clear, I think this shit is one of the best”.

              Even to me who is saying “I give this 3 out of 5” it somehow feels extremely different than saying “I give this 6 out of 10” so I don’t really like to do it. I view star ratings more as buckets to put movies in more than a rating. Like there are five buckets and I put which it goes in. Idk. It makes sense in my head.