• DessertStorms
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      What’s wrong is framing another human being entirely by how they serve you, and what they can or can’t do, possibly before they ever meat you, by how it makes you feel 🤮

      • @Torvum@lemmy.world
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        Because most non terminally online people have dignity and standards in their search for a partner, but you retards are so her choice you’ve horseshoed shaming people who want to make the choice to not date and marry ewhores. Normal people have the expectations you’ve dated and have had sex before. They do not expect, nor want, you to have been a wannabe pornstar with irreversible actions.

        Each side is valid, as they’re adults who hopefully have all their mental acuity, but don’t expect anyone to cater to your worldview and choices. Actions have consequences and it’s up to you to care about them. Diversity of opinion makes a healthy ecosystem.

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          Oh yeah, being an ableist misogynist is a great way to prove you actually value or even just respect women… 🙄🙄🙄

        • @Sharkwellington
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          There’s a reasonable point in here, but it’s not going to reach any ears when you’re using words like “retard” as an insult.

      • @CaptnNMorgan@reddthat.com
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        What? How did you get any of that from what I said? Anybody can do anything with their lives, but I’m not wrong for choosing who can be part of my and my future children’s lives. Have you never thought of the consequences for a kid who’s mom has her pussy being fucked all over the Internet? Kids in school get shit from others for having attractive moms, literally that’s it. The amount of bullying a kid would get from others for having a wannabe pornstar mom could be detrimental.

    • @lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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      Just don’t impregnate e-whores… There’s plenty of women that don’t do this if that’s what you want. It’s their decision and their life. It has nothing to do with you at all.

      • @CaptnNMorgan@reddthat.com
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        But isn’t saying that bad in the current culture? I couldn’t care less what people do for a living if it has nothing to do with me. But if I’m considering someone to be part of my life I don’t want them to have an only fans, past or present, and a lot of people act like that’s a terrible view to have.

        • @lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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          No, you can disqualify partners for whatever you want. Anyone can. It’s all personal preference. Just don’t be an asshole about it.

      • DessertStorms
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        Ah yes, that god awful mentality of…
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        Respecting women as human beings rather than objects for you to control (before and after) you attempt to penetrate and grow babies in.

        • @systemglitch@lemmy.world
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          That people view selling themselves for sex as an undesirable thing. It has a lot of negativity associated with it.

          Talk to kids who’s mother’s were whores or porn actresses and see how it makes them feel and the deep seeded shame they feel if you want a perspective of innocent people who are inadvertantly victimized by it.

          Yeah by all means do what you want with your body, but like everything else in life, there is a lot more going on than the simple act of buying and selling sex. There are far reaching ramifications and decades of haunting afterwards if one chooses a new profession.

          I’ve known whores, and I pity each of them… not for what they did, but for how they feel. You can see the shame etched into them, and they want to hide their past, but it can never be escaped.

          Not a profession I’d recommend for a multitude of reasons.

          • @threeduck@aussie.zone
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            I wonder if the kids of the porn-star dad feel the exact same way? Riddled with the shame and horror of a dad who blasts puss all day long.

            Probably not right? It might even be “cool” to have a motorbike driving porn star dad. Which makes me think that perhaps this isn’t so much “disgust about porn stars” as much as it is “disgust with WOMEN who do porn”.

            I believe that men don’t like the idea of normalising women doing porn, because it makes women sexually confident and aware. “if my girlfriend has slept with insert number here guys, she’ll never stay with me because how can I complete?”.

            It’s a deep seated insecurity thing, possibly because us men put too much weight into sexual performance. If we aren’t THE BEST SEX OF HER LIFE, then we’ve failed. If she’s had sex with that many men, the chances of us being THE BEST reduces.

            So if all men can maintain the societal stigma, hopefully women will refrain from too many partners, and we can keep our egos nice and untested.

            • @systemglitch@lemmy.world
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              That’s a lot of speculation.

              Stigmas aside, statistically people who have lots of sex end up struggling to maintain long lasting relationships… both men and women.

              It’s just not healthy at a certain point.

              I’m also fairly certain most kids would be ashamed of their dad being a porn star as well, especially when they start getting harassed by other kids about it. It would take super human coping skills to deal with it without suffering trauma.

              • @threeduck@aussie.zone
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                I understand most recent studies have suggested that the association between multiple partners and divorce rates is decreasing, possibly due to stigmas around sexual resumés also decreasing.

                If the problem with porn star parents is these kids getting harassed by their peers, wouldn’t that be solved by shifting societal attitudes? Kids used to beat up black school kids, and that’s certainly dropped off since the 30s.

                I imagine that’s the intention of circulating the quote “sex work is real work”, to change perceptions over time.

                I’m sure your argument could be (and likely still is) used to maintain stigmas around homosexuality, especially with the “two dad’s/mums” routine. Like, you couldn’t tell a mixed race couple not to have children because “it would take super human coping skills to deal with it without suffering trauma”.

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      Agreed. People just want to be SJW.

      Now change sex worker to murderer and we’ll see the dumb, same people explode.