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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Tiny-Plastic-8840 on 2023-06-27 10:35:19+00:00.
Around a week ago, my son (9m) and I (36 f) were having a movie night because it was my day off and my husband (37m) was working So to round it up, about last week my son and I were scrolling through movies and shows, and Our Planet came up. My son then told me he wanted to watch the episodes about the sea.
My son watched it and seemed to enjoy it before going to sleep. My husband asked what I was seeing for movie night when he got home, so I told him what we had watched and we chatted about it for a while. I didn’t really expect anything because he didn’t look angry or irritated.
The day or 2 after, my kid enthusiastically told us that he no longer wanted to be a doctor and instead wanted to be a sea scientist (marine biologist) during breakfast. I was happy and gave him encouragement by talking about his potential and options. My husband attempted to be a little supportive, but he was a little stiff and cold.
After my son left for school, my husband told me that we shouldn’t have watched the ocean documentary. When I was surprised and questioned why, he explained that he wanted our son to have a bright future and that I might have ruined it. Our son is on top of his grade and that I made him distracted to a honorable job. He then said I would be responsible for crushing his dreams because he wouldn’t pay any of the tuition. I argued that he was still only nine and that dreams can change. I also advised him to support whatever career path he chooses. We argued back and forth and I got caught up in the moment and screamed at him to leave.
He has been staying at his mother’s house for a few days, and yesterday I received texts from his mother accusing me of attempting to destroy the lives of my husband and my kid.
I acknowledge that I was a bit dramatic and that I overreacted when I kicked him out, but I still disagree and will defend against what he said.
Edit: My husband and I are going to talk it through but I will apologize for sure for my behavior, my son doesn’t know anything about this.
Who cares what the kid wants to be at 9 years old. I wanted to be a special forces sniper or freelance assassin. I am totally not that now, just a boring office/warehouse job.
Let him dream so those dreams can be crushed by reality later in his life.