Two weeks ago, I had a date with a girl I met through a dating app. She was really nice, we had a great conversation and she told in person at the bar she would love to see me again.

Well fast forward a week, I keep texting her to set something up, but she’s not responding. I think she’s ghosted me. I mean, that’s fine, but if you don’t want to date me anymore, then just let me know. I will respect your decision.

Dating is so frustrating sometimes… It’s really fucking hard and I sometimes feel lonely because of my lack of success. I have a good job and I’m a nice guy… but eh… I digress.

  • Smathy
    40•1 year ago

    I have definitely told guys at the end of a date that I “want to see them again” while having no intention of seeing them again. It’s a safety thing. IME guys can Jekyll and Hyde pretty hard when being rejected.

    I know it can hurt feelings, but when it comes down to it, my safety > your feelings

    • @ComatoseSquirrel@lemmy.ml
      20•1 year ago

      I would never recommend putting yourself at risk, but ghosting the person after lying that you’d like to see them again is just a dick move.

    • Fabrik872
      7•1 year ago

      I (man) had similar experience as op and i tougth that people on dating apps are really rude for some reason that it is a apps community thing or something this scenario never occure to me as a option. Is really meeting some foreigner as a girl so scary and/or dangerous?

      • @ParsnipWitch@feddit.de
        2•1 year ago

        Yes it is scary and dangerous. Additionally, some completely flip or “just” start insulting you when you say you don’t want to see them again. I am happier single than trying to go on dates and I bet that’s one of the reasons only 20 % or so of the users on dating apps are women.

    • borkcorkedforks
      3•1 year ago

      I’d get saying it if they ask but might not need to be said if they don’t ask for a second date on the spot.

      • Smathy
        1•1 year ago

        After being threatened, stalked, followed and sexually assaulted by men I’ve rejected in person, I’m totally okay with being mean if it lets me avoid all that.