My wife is absolutely fine in my books. The same way you can say my friend or my acquaintance or what have you, you can say my spouse/wife/husband/whatever without implying any sort of ownership. My view might be skewed being an ESL, but the same applies to German, Russian, Ukrainian, French, for example, which I speak too. I’ve never heard people complaining over those usages
My wife is absolutely fine in my books. The same way you can say my friend or my acquaintance or what have you, you can say my spouse/wife/husband/whatever without implying any sort of ownership. My view might be skewed being an ESL, but the same applies to German, Russian, Ukrainian, French, for example, which I speak too. I’ve never heard people complaining over those usages
I say either my wife, or the wife is fine.
I’ve just stated the reason “the wife” exists at all is a reaction against historical patriarchal language.
I’ve heard different people complain about both and they were always insufferable people trying to nit pick the conversation into a boring place.
Like you!