• fsxylo@sh.itjust.works
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    8 months ago

    Another one of my favorites: when people read between lines that aren’t there.

    I said what I said, not what you heard.

    Now we’re arguing about what I said even though it was 5 seconds ago.

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      8 months ago

      Irl I often repeat what other people say in my own words and ask them if that’s what they believe. It both helps me understand where they’re coming from and confirm I get them

      On the Internet I almost never do.

      Communication is a two way street. You can be as explicit as you want but if people are trying to win an argument instead of have a discussion they’re going to misconstrue what you’re saying more often than not.

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        8 months ago

        So what you’re saying is you make shit up and then when people deny it, you look at them all smug like “I told you so”?

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          8 months ago

          See the problem with your comment is that it’s indistinguishable from something the average Lemmy user would actually say in an argument, so it’s very hard to tell if it’s sarcasm

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      8 months ago

      Being able to figure out what another person is trying to say is an important skill some people don’t seem have. I’m not talking about pretending not to understand to “win an argument” either: some folks are legitimately incapable of it.