• saltesc@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    The honest one. And if that doesn’t go down well, get the hell out of there. Just being asked is already a massive red flag and I doubt things would be lasting much longer from my side of things.

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      8 months ago

      Yeah, I don’t think being asked is a problem in the context of conversation but if it’s a trap kinda question then you need to be talking about her insecurity not her hot friends

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        8 months ago

        Actually you just need to be giving completely honest answers. If she can just handle them without issue then she doesn’t have much insecurity, just curiosity.

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      8 months ago

      Seriously. My wife asks me if random people are objectively attractive or hot or whatever all the time, it’s basically just conversation fluff. It doesn’t matter how I answer because she isn’t jealous or anything, again, just conversation fluff.

      Well, sometimes it matters if I say, “no that person is really weird looking” and she’s like, “whaaaat why?”. But then it’s just funny.