My mind is on circles lately, my dad and other male comrades in my life says or said that as a man you should experience other’s before settling down.
Don’t get me wrong I do some have experience with woman, non sexual tho but I have some, so I somewhat know how to handle relationship.
So here the interesting part I have met my current Gf in freshman of college.
She’s a cool and a very smart woman I can tell you that, she stunning also I might add.
15 months in our relationship, she’s totally honest about het past within our first weeks of talking she already addressed it all, and also because of me asking things about it.
She have one body before me and I have none beforehand, her experiences with her ex happened when they were 13-14 lasted about a year.
They do some kind of acts like sending nudes have intercourse in that, my only bod is with her and I’m grateful about it she’s a wonderful person listen to me actually cared about my being.
Me and her both think that this might be it, this is it, here is where my question gonna appear am I missing out if I do actually end up with her? Should I be jealous that she have one before me and I have none? Or I’m totally fine just overthinking things.
Gladly here your opinions/thoughts about
Nope. Fuck anybody who tries to tell you that. If you’re happy that’s all that matters.
Gotta do it sir fuck them all
If you’re happy and compatible, that’s all that matters. I can only speak for myself, but I did my rounds, and it simply doesn’t matter. Sure, it was fun at the time, but you get nothing rewarding from it. Like you said, she cares about you and your feelings. That’s where most people miss the mark. That’s the important, long lasting stuff.
As far as being happy in the bedroom with one another, that’s a discussion between the two of you. Keep communication open, be willing to try/discuss new things, be respectful with one another, and you’re set.
Yeah thanks man will note it
No
Nah man, consider your self lucky. The only thing you’re missing out on is Heart ache, drama, and meaningless or generic sex. The good stuff comes from finding someone you love and care about.
Yap more that right you are
Horse shit is what you’ve been told by the people you mentioned.
Your manhood, or anyone’s manhood is not based in sex. Period.
Now, there are differences in how you’d go about navigating a long term relationship that involves sex, depending on how well you know yourself sexually (which goes for any other aspect of the self, but that’s tangential). But there’s nothing wrong, or lesser, with discovery in a partnership rather than spread out over multiple encounters prior to the partnership.
It is true that it takes trying things, repeating them, and experimentation to develop self knowledge. This is true of sex as much as it is with food, music, art, whatever. So there is the risk that as the partnership progresses, the people involved may discover that their sexual needs differ enough to be a problem.
But the truth is that the best sex comes when partners are paying attention to each other, communicating both during sex and in between times. Short term partners, you never have time to develop the kind of in depth knowledge of each other for the sex to be truly stellar the way it can be with someone you spend the time and effort with.
So, you won’t even be missing anything that spectacular by having only one partner as long as both of you are willing to work to make sex good. I promise you, the best sex I’ve ever had was with long term partners.
The only benefit to “playing the field” is giving yourself time to get to know yourself better outside the bedroom. Knowing what kind of deal breakers you have, knowing how you navigate disagreements, learning from mistakes in particular, that is something you can pick up piecemeal just as well as with one partner.
Sex? Not so much. You will not be a better partner in bed just because you’ve had experience. Know why? Because no two people are exactly alike with sex. Yeah, you have to figure out the basics of where to put things, and that’s pretty universal. But what works to satisfy a partner can vary immensely. The kind of stuff that’s mostly universal is in books if you don’t want to just try things with a partner. Erogenous zones tend to be fairly universal as an example, in that most people with the same type of genitals will mostly respond to touches in some places more than others.
You still get variances even in the mostly universal things though, so you still have to communicate along the sexual journey with a partner.
And, no matter what any idiot or asshole says, neither vaginas nor penises get worn out or otherwise made lesser by use. Yeah, stds exist, but that’s a separate issue easily addressed by medical tests. Your GF’s body is just as fresh and lovely as it was with her previous partner. She could have been doing gang bangs and you would have no need for jealousy, though that testing would be a very good idea to do before getting started sexually.
No bullshit, y’all will be fine as far as any previous experience goes. Hell, it isn’t like a single partner does anything except maybe let a person know how to tab A into slot B so things can get started. That’s the only difference between the two of you, so don’t let other people’s stupidity screw with your head about it.
Thanks men what a mind opener talk you gave appropriates it
The biggest issue in your situation is your insecurity.
Keep her.
If you want to experience others, and she does too, consider some form of non-monogamy. If that’s not an option, just keep her.
Yap gonna work it out before its too late
No, you are lucky.
Hopefully fingers crossed
If you wanna get mathematical about it, check this out
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secretary_problem
Date a bunch for “a while”, and then keep the one that’s better than all the previous ones. Odds of you finding the best (or even good) out of the gate are slim. Not to mention that you also probably need to grow as a person, and once you do, will attract higher quality partners and refuse to settle for weak ones.
Finding the right one on the first try is great! Whatever anyone else says, don’t feel like a lesser man. If you ask me, I think they’re just jealous.
