• Aksamit@slrpnk.net
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    And when the doctor decides you’re an attention seeking malingerer and refuses to help, what then?

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      If it is the first doctor to say that, I’d seek another opinion. If it’s the second or third, well maybe…

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        Let me guess, you’re a man? A most likely white, cis and straight, man.

        How am I doing?

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            Ask some of the women in your life about what it’s like trying to access healthcare. Ask how often they’re listened to by doctors and how much respect is given when they say something is wrong.

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              You think it’s hard to access healthcare where I live? Why…?

              You’re making awfully lot of assumptions about other people ngl. Assuming their country is less weird but gender, sexuality, all that gets pretty weird.

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                “Brave Men” and “Emotional Women”: A Theory-Guided Literature Review on Gender Bias in Health Care and Gendered Norms towards Patients with Chronic Pain

                Analysis: Women’s pain is routinely underestimated, and gender stereotypes are to blame

                There are hundreds more papers like this from many different countries.

                There are also hundreds of reddit threads about this, with thousands upon thousand of replies from women all over the world, who also attest to it.

                And queer men usually have some understanding of intersectional feminism these days, and have likely experienced some form of medical discrimination due to homophobia.

                Not to mention folk of colour in predominantly white countries, who also regularly face medical discrimination.

                So not believing that women (and female presenting folk) have a harder time accessing the healthcare they need, is yes, a very straight, white, male privileged point of view.

                I do admit though that I am just guessing you are white and living in either the US, Canada, Australia, NZ, UK or Western Europe, mostly based on the fediverse demographic.

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                  It’s not great to assume stuff just because someone holds a different view. It’d be like me assuming you are a woman for being emotional and illogical. Not great and can be viewed as insulting, even when you feel it’s an informed and fair guess.

                  It’s just better to keep to the facts known and not argue with your assumptions.

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          Trying to get someone to reframe their perspective in such a aggressive manner helps no one. Everyone has gaps in their experiences so let’s assume the best before lashing out

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      Don’t stop until you get help.
      I’m lucky to have a colleague who identified I was depressed, and had gone through a similar scenario.
      Don’t stop until you feel you’ve been heard, until you’ve been listened to, until you agree with the doctor.
      Don’t fucking stop