I’m completely inept at organizing changes in my life, which means I waste a many weeks being ‘stuck’ when I could be out living/working somewhere interesting/etc. I was watching Top Gear the other day and I realized that what I really need is to have ‘producers’ like they do on the show who take care of the logistics of things so that the protagonist can just sail through. I realize that this doesn’t come for free so I would be willing to join a group where one such plan is made for the whole group, or switch to a job where having someone plan your life (at least the working part) is a requirement of the job. In other words, I am willing to trade some of my sovereignty/independence for this. Any recommendations? (Just for context, I am not in the US and I’m not old.)

  • gonzo-rand19@moist.catsweat.com
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    18 hours ago

    I don’t think they even mentioned cleaning in the comment. They mentioned “long-term stuff,” “organization,” and “creating structure,” which I would think of as scheduling, shopping/task lists, birthdays/anniversaries, confirming appointments, checking in to make sure tasks are done, reminders, etc.

    • Acamon@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      18 hours ago

      Thanks! It’s defintely more stuff like long term stuff, helping me schedule stuff or make appointments, reminding me to stop avoiding opening my mail, etc. And there’s lots of stuff I help then with, their blindspots and weaknesses.

      That’s what I think makes a good relationship - being with someone with complementary skills, who you trust, who wants the best for you, and who it’s a pleasure to help not just because you love them, but because what they find impossible is easy for you (and vice versa).

      • gonzo-rand19@moist.catsweat.com
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        18 hours ago

        Exactly. I’ve been with my wife for nearly 9 years in a partnership where we both try to leverage our strengths, and we have a similar setup, so I wanted to go to bat for the both of us, so to speak.

        I’m sick and tired of people assuming I don’t carry my weight just because I need reminders about certain things and help with appointments. Let’s be real and admit that ADHD is a disability that prevents you from doing (some) stuff.

        I don’t just “let her clean up after me” and neither do you, it’s annoying to me that you specifically didn’t mention cleaning and they got on their high horse anyway.