After 5 months, I guess I’ve fully cracked. Now I’m wondering about updating my professional website, that cesspool LinkedIn, etc.
I’m a Dev (yes, I use Arch) and I used to teach. I guess I’m nervous about having to tell my old students and coworkers.
I’d love to hear strategies, lessons learned, or anything that made the process smoother.
your experiences might differ, but in my experience it has been mentally harder to be around people I knew pre-transition … I behave in old ways around them and find it harder to be myself, I feel like they know I’m fake or a fraud, etc. and that undercuts my confidence (which is especially important for voice feminization).
That said, I’ve also had no real drama or issues with coworkers I knew pre-transition… the closest was one of them accidentally deadnaming me in a meeting with people who didn’t know me pre-transition, so I was effectively outed in that moment to anyone who hadn’t already noticed or heard through chatter
but that only happened once and they felt awful about it, worse than I felt I’m sure
most people just want to know how to be polite and behave correctly, most weirdness I saw was from people just feeling anxious because they aren’t 100% sure what is or isn’t respectful