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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/No_Relationship_3848 on 2023-09-01 21:53:39.
Me 34F have been married to my husband 37M for 11 years today. I honestly wasn’t expecting anything. Ever since having kids we don’t go all out on anniversaries/birthdays Or Christmas. Life is hectic for us and usually neither one of us gets a chance to go shopping for other. So once again I don’t expect anything.
A few weeks ago I mentioned to him how I wanted a ring updated even sent him a link to a website that sold inexpensive rings of what I was thinking about. He asked if that what I wanted I said yah am good with that. Fast forward to a few days ago we go back to school shopping for our boys. I try on Birkenstocks, am amazed at how comfortable they actually are. He says buy them, I say hmm am unsure. (Side note I am a very indecisive buyer. I need to think about my purchases and pick out the perfect item if am going to spend that much) so I leave them and exclaim I’ll do some research and figure out which kind I want. Am excited at the thought of trying on different ones.
Fast forward to today, I make breakfast for everyone a little more fancy than normal. I have to work for a couple of hours. My husband uses this opportunity to go back to the mall to buy the Birkenstocks I tried on as an anniversary gift. Long story short I want to take them back because I didn’t decide these are the ones I wanted. Now his mad am not grateful. I just feel some kind of way on the low effort gift and getting mad because that’s not what I wanted. I do feel like a brat though. I mean he did do something nice right? Am I the asshole?
Low effort gift is buying something at a gas station, going back to the mall to buy you the shoes you tried on and though were comfortable isn’t low effort. Checking your computer’s search history to see which Birkenstock model you put in your online basket is more effort than can be expected.
