I personally disagree. Long time ago, I was dating someone and one day it just happened… Like that was the point I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. But I did a quick ‘ask her father for permission’ but in my head… And doing that was when I fully came to grasp with just how much a loser I was and how little I had to offer anyone. That moment, was the moment my life shifted. I got my drinking under control, went to college, made better friends, I was serious about my future.

While I didn’t talk to her father, I knew exactly what he’d say. I knew exactly how he felt about me. Him being always honest with me and me finally being honest with me was the best thing that’s ever happened to me.

I’ve never viewed it as a property thing, at least not in America. And I didn’t anyone does. To me it’s always been more of a ‘are you worthy, do I trust you’.