I was the exception to that. I worked 14-16 hours per day between my main job and my side gigs for a while and still had to take care of the kids (one mine, one step) at least half the time too. What worked for me was going to sleep at 5 and waking up at 7-8.
My lovely ex-wife, however, slept all night (I had to take breaks from work if the baby needed attention at night) AND took naps during the day along with our baby. I would’ve liked to sleep more too, but she had a bit of a spending habit, to say the least. We averaged two strollers a month, etc.
Baby is now a toddler and guess who works 50 hours a month and has time and money for the kid and home renovations vs who’s unable to pay rent after the divorce. Being the lunatic paid off for me, but not in direct financial gain (anything earned during that era was immediately spent by my ex). Mostly it got me some new connections that appreciate my skills and taught me how much money I could be making per hour if I negotiate well.
Unfortunately no official diagnosis since she claims nothing is wrong with her and everyone else is out to get her instead. But I suspect narcissistic personality disorder and potentially ADHD (she’s extremely impulsive and makes/changes long term plans on a whim).
We also had about 20 or 30 car seats all together (including both the infant and toddler variants) and we split up shortly after the kid’s first birthday. The winter she was pregnant, she complained about winter jackets being too small or too cold every few weeks, think I bought her a total of 10-15 jackets over one winter. Couldn’t get one two sizes up either. Had to be exact fit because “I’ll stop growing now anyway”. She did not. Went from 70 KG to peak 140 just before birth, claiming she ate nothing.
In dact, someone who posts about things like this on linkedin is not the kind of person who acknowledges the work that their partner does to make a day like that possible.
Sure. I just wanted to give them the benefit of the doubt. There is a slim chance that they have a very healthy relationship at home. The mother may also be a LinkedIn lunatic and they take turns with the children.
That’s the point. Care is work.
And it’s not possible for the Lunatic to live the way they do unless the partner picks up the slack and does everything else.
I was the exception to that. I worked 14-16 hours per day between my main job and my side gigs for a while and still had to take care of the kids (one mine, one step) at least half the time too. What worked for me was going to sleep at 5 and waking up at 7-8.
My lovely ex-wife, however, slept all night (I had to take breaks from work if the baby needed attention at night) AND took naps during the day along with our baby. I would’ve liked to sleep more too, but she had a bit of a spending habit, to say the least. We averaged two strollers a month, etc.
Baby is now a toddler and guess who works 50 hours a month and has time and money for the kid and home renovations vs who’s unable to pay rent after the divorce. Being the lunatic paid off for me, but not in direct financial gain (anything earned during that era was immediately spent by my ex). Mostly it got me some new connections that appreciate my skills and taught me how much money I could be making per hour if I negotiate well.
2 strollers per month on average? There has to be a story worth hearing there.
Unfortunately no official diagnosis since she claims nothing is wrong with her and everyone else is out to get her instead. But I suspect narcissistic personality disorder and potentially ADHD (she’s extremely impulsive and makes/changes long term plans on a whim).
We also had about 20 or 30 car seats all together (including both the infant and toddler variants) and we split up shortly after the kid’s first birthday. The winter she was pregnant, she complained about winter jackets being too small or too cold every few weeks, think I bought her a total of 10-15 jackets over one winter. Couldn’t get one two sizes up either. Had to be exact fit because “I’ll stop growing now anyway”. She did not. Went from 70 KG to peak 140 just before birth, claiming she ate nothing.
2 strollers per month?!
Was it an active warzone?
Life with her certainly was lmao
That number might even have been higher, but like half of them were bought used luckily.
They never say this is done everyday. in dact, I bet it was an extraordinary day since they chose to post about it.
In dact, someone who posts about things like this on linkedin is not the kind of person who acknowledges the work that their partner does to make a day like that possible.
Sure. I just wanted to give them the benefit of the doubt. There is a slim chance that they have a very healthy relationship at home. The mother may also be a LinkedIn lunatic and they take turns with the children.