I was at work so i had to read your previous comment again for it to properly get through, but in my previous relationship we didn’t properly talk and it was my parents that told me to get out because i looked pale and wasn’t acting right, they told me that my ex was killing me mentally, but i stayed because she got pregnant, so after a year of her parents dragging me through all kinds shit (“work”), i found myself one but it was about 1300 km away in another country, we broke up 10 months later and i met my current wife about a year and a half after that and we were both kinda on a rebound, took me a few years to realise that i basically ran away for “work” when the actual reason was i ran away because i was having some serious suicidal thoughts, so now if you don’t say it it doesn’t get resolved and that’s why it’s working when it shouldn’t.