I’m male. I have found myself in many real situations where women weaponize their incompetence and expect to be cooked for, cleaned after, and have all their emotional labor done for them. The same women who also claimed that they were doing these things for me, when they never did any of those things for themselves, let alone me.

My dispute wasn’t with you. I am simple pointing out how people’s descriptions of their relationships are often completely at odds with the reality of the relationship. I had a couple of gfs where the persons friends/parents tried to talk sense into the person, but they persisted in their delusional of persecution and unfairness. But emotionally, their ‘truth’ was that the one or two times they cooked for me over months/years was ‘everyday’, even though we saw each other like 3 times a week and they always spend time at my place, and yet somehow it was my fault that their place wasn’t clean or something because they were ‘cleaning’ so much at my place… when they never lifted a finger once.

But you know what they did do everyday, for me? Complain about how I wasn’t doing enough for them, how hard their life was, and how they shouldn’t have to work, or clean, or cook, at all ever.