My brother told me to have kids. He said raising his daughter was the best thing he’s ever done. I don’t disagree, she’s awesome.
I don’t find it surprising that being a parent is super rewarding if you do it well. I can’t imagine being a parent who raises a shitstain who does something terrible and having to live with that.
I have two daughters 7yrs and 7mths. No one should ever feel bad for not having kids. Especially if they don’t want them.
Your friends are probably just venting (hopefully), so you are hearing the worst of it. Personally, I could never imagine my life without my kids and even though that 7mth old was screaming for a few hours today I wouldn’t swap this life for a child free one. It’s just different paths and you questioning it probably means you are a good person. Introspection is hard.
My brains a bit fried from the screaming so hopefully this makes sense.
As someone who’s currently struggling with this decision, it’s good to hear that you made a choice not to have kids, and don’t regret it 14 years on.
I probably have the means to raise a child, but I’m not sure if I want to sacrifice the things I see my friends sacrificing to raise a child well (not to mention the world sucks and all that).
The thing I’m most worried about is regretting my choice either way when I get older (ie having a child and regretting it, or not having a child and regretting that).
Our oldest (7) entered public school last year and my expectations for other parents lowered to a point that I never thought possible. I was worried she wouldn’t adjust well or would shut down, but nope the teachers gush to us about her constantly. I’m not patting myself on the back at all because it’s 90% my daughter being awesome and somehow having high emotional intelligence at her age. How proud I am is leaking out.
Shit parents do create shit kids though. The saying is good parents often create good kids but bad parents almost always make bad kids. For example the douche parents at my kid’s school created the kid that steals from the teacher constantly and is in the “trouble room” every day.
I mean there is a chance you can do everything well and still end up with a shitstain of a human when having kids. Sociopaths and Narcissists sometimes just happen.
My brother told me to have kids. He said raising his daughter was the best thing he’s ever done. I don’t disagree, she’s awesome.
I don’t find it surprising that being a parent is super rewarding if you do it well. I can’t imagine being a parent who raises a shitstain who does something terrible and having to live with that.
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I have two daughters 7yrs and 7mths. No one should ever feel bad for not having kids. Especially if they don’t want them.
Your friends are probably just venting (hopefully), so you are hearing the worst of it. Personally, I could never imagine my life without my kids and even though that 7mth old was screaming for a few hours today I wouldn’t swap this life for a child free one. It’s just different paths and you questioning it probably means you are a good person. Introspection is hard.
My brains a bit fried from the screaming so hopefully this makes sense.
As someone who’s currently struggling with this decision, it’s good to hear that you made a choice not to have kids, and don’t regret it 14 years on.
I probably have the means to raise a child, but I’m not sure if I want to sacrifice the things I see my friends sacrificing to raise a child well (not to mention the world sucks and all that).
The thing I’m most worried about is regretting my choice either way when I get older (ie having a child and regretting it, or not having a child and regretting that).
Our oldest (7) entered public school last year and my expectations for other parents lowered to a point that I never thought possible. I was worried she wouldn’t adjust well or would shut down, but nope the teachers gush to us about her constantly. I’m not patting myself on the back at all because it’s 90% my daughter being awesome and somehow having high emotional intelligence at her age. How proud I am is leaking out.
Shit parents do create shit kids though. The saying is good parents often create good kids but bad parents almost always make bad kids. For example the douche parents at my kid’s school created the kid that steals from the teacher constantly and is in the “trouble room” every day.
Sometimes good parents have terrible kids, too. Sociopaths are just born sometimes and not made.
The way we describe having a kid is that it’s the best/worst thing you’ll ever do.
I mean there is a chance you can do everything well and still end up with a shitstain of a human when having kids. Sociopaths and Narcissists sometimes just happen.