• kismattic@lemmy.worldOP
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      But then I’d never see your amazing advice! Although, would I have needed the advice in the first place?

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        You can still check back on conversations that interest you, you just don’t have to deal with the rest… 👍

        To be completely honest, on kbin blocking someone doesn’t stop the notification coming through when they reply, and switching off notifications was the easiest way around that. This has probably been fixed already, and may be completely different on lemmy, but I actually prefer it this way. The only disadvantage I can think of is potentially missing replies to older conversations (and if I really must know, I can always scroll back my profile and find it, though I’ve not had that need yet), but I guess that’s a price I’m willing to pay to avoid those anxiety inducing little fuckers that are notifications… 😂

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          Yeah I have accounts in various places but have mostly lurked around here. Didn’t realize I had some form of anxiety until I realized how stressed I get posting or responding to things or getting notifications. Slooowwlly getting over it. How to people just throw stuff out there and feel nothing??

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            I don’t know about you, but for me it’s the intrusion, I’m not always free or in a frame of mind to have certain, or even any, conversations, and notifications intrude on that, and ignoring them can be hard. I’d rather be in control of what conversations I have and when.

            It also helps to remember that at the end of the day people on the internet are generally random strangers to each other, and none of us owe each other our attention, time, or energy.

            I don’t really see it as anything I need to get over, but if it bothers you taking it slow and steady is the way to go!

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              Yeah for me it’s really gotten easier since I’ve started doing streaming games online and talking with various people and stuff. Having people come and go and figuring out when someone is being kind or rude has helped a lot for figuring out when to engage, avoid, and even remove.

              It’s easy for me to ignore different comments and just let it be, but I do really think about what I say before throwing it out there which is most of the stress, but it’s always getting better!

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                Sounds like you’ve figured out some great ways to work on the stress aspect - the fact that it gets easier is fantastic!

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                  Yeah it feels like I’m just responding to everything now! I don’t even know who I am anymore

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                    Lol, there you go! All you needed was to take that first step, and the rest has been taken care of for you just by nature of how asking a question works 😁

                    Just remember - worst case? Abandon this account and start another 😂

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      I did this on reddit for comments I knew would be a shitshow, just drop brutal fire, set to no notifications, post. Let the haters spew and I’m just kicking back on the next conversation.

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      It makes me sad I don’t always get notifications when I get a reply 😢 I want to reply and contribute!