Some people like the sound of their own voice. Others do it to destress. They aren’t doing it out of maliciousness but holy fuck be upfront about not wanting to hear more or stop complaining.
Like seriously “waaah waaah people are too socially inept to take a hint” yet then the same people are too socially inept to be upfront
Damn that’s crazy
Many people fail to understand that hinting isn’t communicating, it’s expecting the other person to do the heavy lifting in a relationship (friend or otherwise) for you.
You aren’t clever, or somehow above the friend, for making hints and resenting the person for not shutting up when they miss them. You’re just fucking inept at communicating.
Damn that’s crazy
Please tell us how you can be upfront about this topic without sounding like an asshole, since you’re so socially apt.
How are you supposed to be upfront about something like that without coming off as rude?
There is literally no way to be upfront about communicating ‘I have no interest in what you are saying and wish you would stop talking’ without coming off like an asshole and/or hurting their feelings most of the time.
I’d rather just not piss off the guy that I have to work with 40 hours a week and just move through life as easily as possible.
I usually take my frustration out by hoping they would get killed in a car wreck or something, just anything to save me from more misery.
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I’m sorry, my brain is also screaming at me to shut up. Unfortunately I have ADHD and I forgot to take my meds.
Relatable, I tend to turn into a winny 4 year old when I’m hungry and tired.
Oh trust me. As someone with unmedicated ADHD, I’m basically shelling my own position with this meme.
That’s not anywhere close to a hint lmao, that’s making it sound like you are engaged in the story. Hmms and hahs and silence are the hints.
You tell someone something and they go “DAMN, that’s crazy!” That’s an exclamation and inflection indicating interest. Fuckin cmon how much do we have to read between the lines. It’s exhausting.
A good hint would be: “man, my work is really busy”
Also, it’s not hard to be like, “sorry I gotta get back to work”. It always seems like people can be harsher online to people trying to give them advice than the people they’re supposedly annoyed with.
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But can’t they be lying even if they have inflections? So if they say it more than twice, it could mean disinterest? Am autistic and cannot tell. I have trained myself to notice the typical flat responses if I’m with non Autistic people, but if they respond with any kind of inflection and something that sounds so interested/excitable, I could not tell.
This is a particularly nasty “hint” imo :/
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I have autism. You think I would know a hint when I see one? Cause I won’t! It’s actually quite annoying
“Oh damn, that’s crazy.” Oh, you really think so? Nice to meet someone as interested in this as I, now let me tell you more about it.
I was just thinking that: being on the spectrum means you’ve been both of these people, maybe even in the same day.
I used to work with a guy who said “damn” every few words like: “I went to the damn store last night to get some damn milk and damn, milk is like four damn dollars now. I thought damn, the kids are going to have to start drinking damn water.”
Anyway, after every boring damn story i would just shake my head and say “damn”
That’s not your co-worker that’s Shadow the Hedgehog.
It’s best to let them get it out until the energy has run its course, and just stop responding and check back in an hour or two with a follow up response.
For people who treat chat like an email, I simply reciprocate.
This isn’t even passive-aggressive, this is just passive. Use your words, OP!
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