Based on data from https://fedipact.veganism.social/ it seems that the majority of instances blocks threads.net. I’m sure there’s Lemmy instances with either approach that have slipped through the cracks as the list is a work in progress.
The percentage of users doesn’t correlate to instances as the biggest instance on the Lemmyverse has roughly 3x the users of the second largest, a NSFW instance, 4x the users of the biggest “niché” instance and 5x the users of what I see as the second largest general purpose instance.
If someone’s punched you in the face and robbed you blind the last 15 times you invited them over, do you think the 16th time is gonna be different?