users should learn to avoid relying on instances that do it too much.
Except you cannot foresee which instance will defederate too much and there is no mechanism for migrating a user to another instance so you end up making new users, loosing all your user history or simply relying on more mature instances.
Instance admins should defederate as often as they feel is necessary, and users should learn to avoid relying on instances that do it too much.
Wow! Someone who gets “choice” and “freedom of association”!
Except you cannot foresee which instance will defederate too much and there is no mechanism for migrating a user to another instance so you end up making new users, loosing all your user history or simply relying on more mature instances.