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Cake day: June 25th, 2025

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  • Same.

    I like to start conversations with strangers by asking them to tell me something they personally find interesting (specifically not something they think I’ll find interesting, something they do). Sometimes I get some great new information, sometimes just a short conversation.

    It really weeds out people with no personality or hobbies or whatever, though. Like the dude who decided to explain basketball to me… not as an info dump, just because he had nothing else to talk about and it was on tv…

    Even the guy who told me about how he designs machines to make trash bags was more interesting than basketball dude.





  • I haven’t worn a bra in decades other than occasional for a nice outfit sort of stuff.

    I don’t consider it self-care, I just don’t have boobs worth bra-ing up. Why waste the money for something that does nothing?

    Self care is doing whatever makes you comfortable, not what other people say should make you more comfortable.

    Lots of people, especially fem-presenting people, would be wildly uncomfortable with their nipples being visible through a tighter shirt, and you know what? That’s super understandable. People give me looks and comments not infrequently. It’s uncomfortable. That’s reasonable. I’ve stopped caring what small-minded people think so I’m over it, but it takes years to get comfortable with that, and that’s the opposite of self-care if it’s not something you already want to do.