They are able to be “fake nice” if that counts as warming up. Honestly I can’t put up with their blunt, callous, rude and egotistical behaviour for long enough to get to anything “more”. Like what more could there be with someone like that? Most people I know here have many acquaintances but not really any true close friends. Not to mention the stories I hear about friend group drama and cheating. Like really I’d rather stay away from all of this. Also in the culture here it’s very common for the woman to be as fake as possible and try to be a golddigger for some really gross guy. It’s especially cringe because they all dress and do their hair in the exact same way which I think is tacky af. They’re just very vain and I feel so uncomfortable around them because I can tell they’re “sizing me up” and view me as beneath them cause I don’t wear high heels 24/7, and spend my entire paycheck on extensions, fake nails and the newest iphone. I’m sure there are exceptions, and it MIGHT be possible to find someone nice, who isn’t extremely racist, but I don’t think I can endure the pile of crap that I have to sift through to find that. I think most people who wanted a brighter future left this place long ago. I genuinely have no idea why anyone would stay here, unless they’re ignorant af. The constant smoking, pollution, aggression, toxic masculinity… they call any woman over the age of like 23 an “auntie” (a special derogatory word for it) and this is unironically. Men here absolutely despise women and treat them like garbage for the most part. I’m sorry but this place is a literal shithole and I feel like most people who disagree are lying to themselves. Not to mention most people get extremely defensive (and aggressive) if you dare say anything bad about the country online, and I feel like that says a lot too. The overall mentality of people here is the same in every aspect of life. They can’t accept feedback, they can’t view things from others perspectives. It’s just their way or the highway. Also they immediately resort to aggression or violence for pretty much anything. Sorry this turned into a vent. The only good thing about living here is that I don’t have to worry about paying rent, which takes a lot of pressure off of me, but there is nothing else enjoyable about it.

Honestly I really did try to use discord. I tried searching up so many different communities for my interests and they just aren’t active at all. They maybe have like 5-10 active users and they’re all significantly younger than me. I feel like I’m just cursed.

Interesting. I presume for the average adult this wouldn’t really be an issue, unless they are switching job or working some kind of job with variable income. Unrelated question- do you like living in Norway?

I’m not trying to be antagonistic when I say this, but I don’t think it’s his fault that he is shallow. He probably couldn’t help the fact that he wasn’t as attracted to me as he would have liked to be. I don’t necessarily think that makes him a bad person, though I kind of agree he maybe shouldn’t have dated me or led me on to the point that he did, if he knew from the start I was not what he was looking for.

I think he was just excited to finally have a gf, and to have met a girl he had a bunch in common with that he liked talking to. I think he definitely liked the validation and attention from it too.

I think maybe im being easy on his wrongdoings because of the nice things he did for me too. And they weren’t super small things either. I don’t know, but all I can say is I’ve met a lot of guys and I never felt like anyone understood me or even remotely cared about me like he did. Maybe I’m just unlikeable trash, because at this point that’s my only explanation. Its not like I’ve rejected a bunch of good guys or anything.

Maybe his honesty was a way to absolve himself of the guilt he felt by leading me on, I’m not sure. But I feel like if either way he is going to date me, it’s better to be honest about how he feels at least a little.

Honestly, that didn’t offend me because I know I’m not that pretty, and he did warn me that he is generally shallow appearance-wise. So like nothing he said was wrong. And I do get why he would want someone prettier to be with “forever”. It did make me a bit sad though that I couldn’t be what he wanted.

I mean me neither but like that doesn’t make him a bad person or anything

I mean what am I supposed to do?

Disconnect between me and others? As I said others like him too so there’s no disconnect there

Tbh I really liked Norway and Denmark but they’re outside of my budget rn unless I want to camp out the whole time in Norway. Portugal it is

What do you mean “a man like that”? I’m sure most men think it, he’s the only one that was honest about it

He was just being honest and he didn’t say it to hurt me he just told me how he was feeling

It was not on /b/

From what you’ve seen, do you think people are happier in certain parts of the world?

Even if they’re interested in the same things that doesn’t help me become friends with them if their outlook on everything else is completely different. They are also super racist. They think “English speakers” are like a different breed or something, and I know this because I understand both languages and they tend to talk crap after every interaction with an “English speaker” aka foreigner aka anyone that didn’t grow up here.

It’s even worse for me because I’m technically “from” the country but I can’t hide it because of my name. So everyone hates me even more than an “English speaker” because they view me as a traitor who left the country and I can’t even speak their language without an accent, the horror. If it weren’t for my name I would just pretend I only speak English and my life would be way easier this way.

Literally every single time I’ve spoken to someone that grew up here for more than 1 second (ordering a sandwich) one of the first things they talk about is how much they hate America and how much better everything here in this country is (hint: they have no idea what they’re missing cause they’ve never left the country). They also always comment on my accent and how much I “suck” at the language because I’ve literally never had to use it but am still able to speak it so sometimes it takes me a second or two to remember a word I never use. Then they tell me I will never be accepted into society or get a job here unless I take language lessons.

At this point I just want to leave this awful country where everyone treats me like garbage. The language isn’t worth perfecting or learning for me and I have zero desire to live here. The only jobs that pay any living wage are in IT, and I still wouldn’t want to have my colleagues be… the way that they are.

As for volunteering, the hospitals look like actual abandoned backalley nightmarefuel depictions. There nowhere else to volunteer cause we don’t have social services.

banned 4 Naruto

Rood

banned for buying a pass

also rood

Tbh, I think I had to be banned to stop using it. So maybe it’s a good thing, and I can lie to myself and pretend the moderators really care about me and want me to be happy and that’s why they banned me ^.

Tbh his self esteem was quite low often, but it also fluctuated with periods of thinking he is godlike. I didn’t personally find it taxing to deal with his insecurities. I was just bewildered at how much he hated himself and thought he was unworthy of love while simultaneously running away from the one girl who loved him. Kind of funny. Ha ha.

I guess my point was, I’m assuming you live in the US if you think there’s a lot of good in people

Okay well that makes a lot more sense for someone that has to pay quarterly I guess. I guess this is a US thing. Luckily I never had to do my own taxes in Canada and looks like I’m never going to have to learn, but I’m interested in US accountingd

I don’t know who we is but I certainly don’t

I mean, he did occasionally say turd-like things but everyone has flaws. He also said he wishes I was prettier so he wouldn’t have doubts about marrying me lol.

He meant it in the context of telling me I treated him worse than his friends do, and he said that after we got into an argument once. His friends are more like acquaintances and he has never had to live with them.

Honestly I wish I could remember wtf actually happened (apart him constantly trying to leave when there was an issue instead of trying to solve it). That was a common pattern. Like if I would ever communicate to him anything that “bugged” me, he would just be like “do you want me to leave I feel like I’m just making you unhappy” and I would be like “no I do not want you to leave are you insane” but then he would keep mentioning leaving or booking a flight back and eventually I was just like… I think bro just wants to leave

We had to cohabitate temporarily, somewhat soon after first meeting in person, and I think the learning curve of me being his first gf plus that was just too much for him to handle

Either way it became exhausting after a while being the only person who wanted to make the relationship work

Thanks for the response. I could be totally wrong but I feel like the country where I’m currently living doesn’t have anything for me in it and I don’t think I will be happy here. On the other hand I don’t know how much better it will be elsewhere. I just feel like the people here are generally awful, especially in the city I live where all the jobs are. I can’t move cause of that, and also the pollution in other places is even worse, and if I go to some village it will only be old people there. So yeah life does seem quite limited.

My only solution is moving somewhere else but I’m worried it’ll just be a waste of time and money and unnecessary stress, maybe I should just accept my fate here, idk.

It’s uncertain what exactly, but something weird is definitely going on