SnoopSqueak

Hitting your children is legal in all 50 United States.

https://legallyexplained.com/is-it-legal-to-spank-your-child-in-the-us/

My parents will never face justice for hitting my brothers and I. Abuse is legal and normalized here.

I have social anxiety and low self esteem. I am always worried that people think poorly of me and it will cause problems. The root cause is my parents’ mistreatment of me, but there are many factors that fuel it, including social media.

My version of an evil comment section in my head is my parents. I have to remind myself that they were wrong, I do not deserve punishment for trying my best. Criticism can be helpful, but avoid tearing yourself down. Mistakes are natural. Punishment does not help us avoid mistakes. Patient, thoughtful correction is more effective. It’s not all-or-nothing.

Please be kind to yourself. 🙂

Did they renounce their cult and do anything at all to help the victims?

Or are they pretending “progressive christian” is a valid ideology, forgiving themselves and moving on without actually fixing any of the root problems?

Pastors are not good people. They make their living lying to people and almost never face accountability for it. They just shift the lie to suit their needs at the time, at everyone’s expense.

Correct, therapists are actually incentivized NOT to help you. I tried three.

I’ve had similar thoughts, I’m in my mid-30s. But everything wrong with me came from my abusive parents. I often wonder what my life would have been like if it hadn’t been scrambled. Maybe we’re just past our prime; or maybe we were sabotaged.

Plus, we have plastic in our brains. Maybe not as bad as the lead the boomers have, but still pretty bad.

“Ah, dang it, I showed up late and they’re out of masks. I guess that means I’ll have to use the voice-cancelling ball gag again…”

I think it sort of speaks for itself. An “elite” class that keeps a “lower” class in perpetual servitude is so blatantly immoral, the goal of freeing society is a natural response.

I like the emphasis on community and getting closer with from each other, resisting the alienation that has been thrust upon us.

“But look how many people died under communism!” some say. I have no idea why people think fascist authoritarianism is a necessary consequence of communism. It seems to be in direct opposition to me, but people seem to think “they did communism wrong” is not a good enough answer. I don’t want secret police or death camps, personally. I think we have more options than have yet been explored.

Yikes! It is frightening how shameless some people are; proud, even.

When I was young, I decided I probably shouldn’t have kids. I figured that if my parents (who I loved and respected at the time) couldn’t raise me without so much pain and fear, I’d probably do an even worse job.

When I told my abusive mother this as an adult, she told me I did not actually have that thought. How convenient for her.

We no longer speak. 🥲

My best guess is they thought it would reflect poorly on them as parents, and their image is more important to them than their childrens’ happiness. Certainly the case with my parents, at least.

I prefer to focus on reality. Abuse has been normalized and things need to change. Others have it worse than I do. There are more victims every day.

I agree with you in spirit, although “dead things can’t consent” is insufficient in my opinion. Sex toys can’t consent either, but there is nothing morally wrong with using them appropriately.

We evolved a sense of revulsion about corpses to help keep us safe. Christians have a harmful habit of backwards thinking, claiming an invisible wizard created the morals we developed naturally over time. My abusive parents will never face justice because too many people think they’re entitled to believe things that are not true.

It is scary how many people genuinely seem to think atheists can’t or don’t have morals. Imo, it’s immoral to lie. If everyone could stop pretending magic is real, if we could hold each other accountable using standards that are grounded in observable reality, we could solve a lot of problems.

My parents had children they couldn’t actually afford, so they spent most of their time at work instead of raising us. Somehow, they expect me to be grateful to them for not being there and for bringing me into slave world.

I wish I hadn’t been born.