I don’t think they’re talking about the dead/distressed ant smell. To the best of my knowledge, everyone can smell that. They’re talking about a general smell of ants

This story would probably be even cooler if I had any idea who she is :P

This article feels like it was written by an LLM… With its rephrasing, dot points and descriptions of what it’s going to talk about, as well as explaining stuff that doesn’t need explaining…

I have both Undetermined and English in my account setting

This determines what content you can see. So it means you will see content tagged with English as well as content that doesn’t have a language tag.

each post and comment have those two options but i leave those it on “Select language”

This means that your posts and comments are not setting a language tag when you make them, so people who are able to see content without language tags will be able to see them.

Who said there was big news?

So a heads up for people watching. It starts out seeming like it’s a video for cis folk, explaining what transition is and why trans people do it, but about 5 minutes in, it radically shifts in scope, and becomes a first hand experience of a trans person, talking to other trans people. It raw and powerful. But it’s also something you should watch only when you have the spoons for someone talking about their trauma.

Oof, Epoch 3 for HDR. They were hoping to have it soon after their first stable release :/

That one has been approved. It’s possible your old one wasn’t approved if we couldn’t be sure it wasn’t a bot

It’s worth pointing out that we don’t require emails when you sign up, and so, there is no email confirmation when you’re approved.

internalized transphobia causes a lack of acceptance of being trans and makes you feel like taking steps to transition (like hormones or hair removal) are immoral or wrong … am I understanding better?

That is exactly what I’m saying!

Edit - I’ve edited my original reply to clarify

I wasn’t talking about dysphoria, I was talking about the OPs difficulty in accepting themself

The trouble with self acceptance that you’re having is the result of a lifetime of transphobia. Transphobia that has you believing that being trans is a bad thing. And that lens shapes thoughts like these.

For every negative example you provide there, there is a positive version. When you consider transition as a form of self love and self care, all of the things you are talking about become acts of self care. When you frame it as purely about aesthetics, you perceive it as shallow and harmful, and in turn, the act of transition becomes one of selfishness.

The thing is though, self acceptance and transition is an act of self care and self love, that improves not only your life, but the lives of the people that love you and interact with you. The trick here is giving yourself permission to be open to that possibility.

You can’t reason yourself out of internalised transphobia. You won’t find a mental “gotcha” that lets you undo a lifetime of negative thoughts in a moment. What you can do though is recognise that you’re carrying a lifetime of negative propoganda, and recognise these thoughts as being part of that. It doesn’t make them go away, but it does take away some of their power, and gives you the space to find a healthier perspective.

Is this “Would I have an LLM do it?” in disguise?

I would not have asked this question anywhere if the focus had been whether cisgender people encourage the usage of two gender stereotypes.

But you did ask it somewhere, and you asked it about trans people, who aren’t in a position to change it, but are unfairly burdened by it.

Surely you see how skipping over it for cis people “because it’s obvious” to talk about trans people instead, is putting the focus and blame on the wrong group, whether that is your intention or not. Trans people can’t fix it, and trans people are the most punished by it. There is no conflict, just trans people trying to live safely in a society that makes that hard.

I think these prejudices are actively harmful to non-conforming people, since they may be perceived as socially inept or weird (consider young adults/school).

That is a little confusing, because the premise of your post was about gender conforming trans people. Here, you’re talking about the impact on non gender confirming trans folk though.

The crucially important thing is that trans people are punished however they perform gender.

It’s not my intention to vilify or blame trans people, whom you rightfully defend. I crafted this question with my mind set on the following: “If I were trans, would I be supporting gender stereotypes and/or how to avoid it”.

Yeah, I know you aren’t coming from a place of ill intent.

And I know you’re coming at this from the lens of someone questioning themselves. But like so many of us, you’re struggling with things, because of a lifetime of transphobic baggage that shapes how you even think about yourself.

Here’s the thing, if you’re gender diverse, you’re gender diverse already. It doesn’t become true when you accept it, and it doesn’t stop being true when you try and push it deeper. If you’re gender diverse, you aren’t “supporting stereotypes”. In fact, if you express your identity to people in any way, society will go out of its way to punish you for diverging from its expected stereotypes.

Not sure where you read me blaming trans people for their own mistreatment

You are doing that, but I include you in the list of people you’re impacting. And it’s also something that so so so many of us do. It’s the result of growing up surrounded by transphobia. We will do anything to undermine ourselves and talk ourselves out of being trans or gender diverse. Even if you’re not gender diverse, the framework we exist in makes it really hard to work that out, because you punish yourself for even considering it, for even asking the questions.

And that’s what this is. This is you, struggling with internal conflicts as you look inwards to your own identity, trying to find reasons why you shouldn’t go further down this path, why in fact, it’s easier to just suck it up and go back to the way things were. It’s why you skipped over the impact cis folk have on this environment, and instead focused on gender diverse folk, because you’re dealing with a lifelong pressure that makes you want to bias the outcome of your self reflection so that you don’t find divergence and difficulty.

My advice to you, is to stop worrying about what your self reflection might find, and what it might mean, until after you’ve followed that path. If you’re gender diverse, you’re gender diverse already, and the important part is giving yourself permission to accept that possibility, rather than trying to focus on building barriers to the exploration. If you do find out you’re gender diverse, then you can find a way of navigating that on your own terms, in a way that brings you peace and happiness. But find that answer first :)

The other option is to use our piefed instance

AKA racist arch

I use cachyos on my homelab/media server, but that’s mostly because I’ve got more familiarity with it, which makes troubleshooting easier

Unfortunately, the only way to remove it is to edit the code and maintain a fork. Which is possible, but I can’t make any promises

I transitioned at 41, and that was about 9 years ago. My advice to you is to give yourself permission to explore and to find the answers. You don’t need to know exactly what the end point is before you start, you don’t need to have 100% certainty or perfect labels. What you need is simply permission from yourself, to explore and find the things that make you happy.

What I’m getting at is that your “but” made it sound like you were challenging her findings, rather than images incorrect summary of her findings.