Hey girl, and welcome! I just came across your post (thanks for sharing!) and read through it. A lot of your experiences with looking back and thinking that the signs should have been so obvious deeply resonates with me. I’m in the later half of my 30’s and have immense feelings of grief of not having found out sooner. I haven’t had a bad life. I certainly haven’t had to overcome the same obstacles you’ve had to which, by the way, is super commendable! I have an amazing wife and I’ve carved out a comfortable life with an enjoyable job that keeps the bills mostly paid and a super supportive friend group. But it never felt like I was actively making those decisions. Like someone else was steering the boat and I was left bracing for the waves. I had moments of happiness, but I realized that I had a baseline sense of unease at every waking moment. It wasn’t until I started opening that Pandora’s box of gender awareness that everything started making sense and hindsight came into clearer focus. Now I feel like I’m in a rush to scrape together whatever time I have left to finally live the life that I want and deserve.

I hope you aren’t discouraged from continuing to post and sharing your experiences. I am, admittedly, mostly a lurker. I want to get better about being more active on here but I think trans folks in general are a little more guarded from over-sharing online. But I will say that seeing posts like this and reading about the experiences of other people has immensely helped me process my own journey. So even if you don’t get the engagement you would like, I hope you take some solace from the fact that you are still making an impact and your life and perspective matter.

To answer your question, I don’t think anyone would get uncomfortable just because you comment. From what I’ve gathered, the folks who are more active on the trans-specific instances are very good about gently reframing comments and posts which may have inadvertently been worded poorly.

Hope to see more :)

Thanks, girl!!!

Uhmmm…could you send me that subway meme?