I think there’s a big dumb reason that explains a lot and it’s when boomers learn a new word. They overuse and overapply it until they completely ruin the word. It can no longer be used for its original intention.
They did this with the word “triggered”.
Research shows that children are in fact not clay to be shaped and molded into future senators but more like malleable plastic that spring back when you stop forcing outside pressure.
Helicopter parenting is bad when neither of you WANT to do it. Your kid hates soccer, you’re tired of the obligation, there’s a good chance you’re both doing it for no reason and should do fun things instead.
Being anti-helicipter parenting isn’t bootstrap mentality.
It’s like spanking. Parents don’t want to hit kids and lord knows kids hate it but there’s this unscrutinized wisdom that you turned out how you did because your dad spanked you. Ok but what if you didn’t and your dad was hitting you for no good reason. That’s something to be heavily scrutinized.