Mastodon is still federated and while there are going to be some instances run by bad actors the majority of them aren’t as bad. From what I understand at least mastodon.social is defederated with the bad instances anyway so we can’t interact with each other but I may be wrong I’m kind of new to this type of platform

I LOVE SELF HOSTING

Yeah. If you want an alternative I’d recommend mastodon because from what I’ve seen at least it’s not as brain dead

I really appreciate the advice I think I’m gonna just try buying some fem clothes tomorrow

Any idea how I could find some trans communities irl? I live in a city but I don’t know how to look for those types of groups and this is sort of the first time I’ve gone and actually not lurked and said something on a specifically trans community

What resources would you recommend specifically for figuring out how to get hrt? I am more willing to take the steps after learning how important it is but I still am unsure especially because as far as I know unless you do diy which is risky you have to go through the medical system which takes really long and also has diagnosis and also that migjt not be a great idea to me bc of current politics

Thank you for the info. I originally thought that the body changing stuff just ended once you become an adult kind of like puberty and knowing that is really helpful. For the mental stuff I already have the first 3 and some other issues but I really don’t want night terrors if that’s a common issue so I’ll try to do it soon. Also I have already read the dysphoria bible and I reread specific sections when I have imposter syndrome to reassure me but thank you anyway <3

What exactly are the consequences? Also like there’s still a lot of imposter syndrome because I havent done any social transitioning besides name and gender neutral pronouns which makes me really unsure if I want to do hrt

Im ngl I know for a fact my parents arent homophobic because my.sister is lesbian it’s just that I don’t want to deal with explaining to them that I’m on hrt and I feel like I would need bc they’re still paying for my insurance

Also that feeling of betraying yourself that you described is exactly how I felt too which kind of helps with imposter syndrome actually

Thank you so much I really appreciate the advice <3

thank you for the advice

I’m really unsure about the medical stuff right now bc of the politics situation even if I live in a blue state though and it feels like so much bigger of a hurdle too because it costs money and I am also not ready to like deal with my parents even though im out to them still