What exactly is the cost of self hosting a Lemmy instance? Understandably you would want a powerful server, but that would be just a single one time purchase.
Where does the rest of the cost come in? Does it require more than a 2 gigabit connection and thus require a data centers 10 gigabit connection?
If I could run an instance on 2 gigabits and spending a 1-3 thousand on a server then I’d be interested in giving it a try.
Really weird. Might be a bug.
I can’t find anyone else reporting memory usage problems. Maybe you could ask in the support community and see if anyone else has encountered the same problem.
Your VPS should be more than enough and you shouldn’t have to spend more money because of a software issue.