or maybe some other terminology would be better? lots of people get confused when you ask them to choose an instance, sometimes I think even the word “proxy”, “host”, or “hub” is simpler
the specific terms aren’t my point, just a discussion to see if we can come up with a better name
I think provider might be a better world. It’s less of a technical term, and everyone knows what’s the difference between mobile service providers, internet/cable TV providers, and such.
If you tell me I have to choose a Lemmy provider I’ll immediately assume you have to pay for it