Good sentencing by the judge and screw the woman who threw the food, but I find it a bit silly to go to therapy for “trauma” caused by having food thrown in your face. If she was burned that’s a different story, but I would assume the article would mention it if that were the case.
No, a burrito to the face is physical abuse. Being verbally and physically abused every day of your job is not how jobs are supposed to work, and viewing things like that as silly small things to be affected by is itself pretty damaging.
If I lean across the counter and punch you in the head, you’re allowed to have some kind of feeling about that. Especially in a setting that heavily discourages and may even punish defending yourself, the way retail often does.
Convincing yourself it’s fine because the world is cruel keeps the world cruel. More importantly, it keeps you from considering you deserve anything other than cruelty. We need to care about each other.
It isn’t fine, your employer and your life should reflect that, but therapy for food in the face is weakness.
Totally aware the crowd here is all “self care, labels, wellness” and I’ll burn for this idea, but if we’re so broken that food to the face is needing another human to talk you through it for 60+ minutes then we are toast.
Good game.
The employer should pay, the criminal should pay. That should cover you.
Retail for 5, construction for 5. Truly, life is bigger than this. Fire service after that.
Again if you need another person to talk you through the situation of someone throwing food at you, to convince you you did nothing wrong, that the thrower is wrong, that their action is the wrong one, then you are weak.
I’m not saying you don’t deserve compensation or that you should just “take it”.
Agree, Mauro didn’t fix shit, and tried to blame downstream applications. Punk move.
He should have asked for coaching
“Hey I es self reviewed my code, checked the docs, but I’m getting some unexpected errors when testing some downstream applications. Can you help me step through my code to check for silly mistakes or somewhere I went off track? I reviewed the core project rules so I’m confident the trouble likely exists within my changes”
Bet that would get a very very different response.
I didn’t experience a situation beyond singular reason
In this case the situation was simple enough for anyone to understand. (burrito to the face, the person was rude, wrong, and reaponsible. I did nothing wrong. done)
Nope, but any one-time interaction with a stranger that doesn’t result in injury is not traumatizing for the vast majority of people. If it is, that just indicates they should have been in therapy already.
My point is you can’t judge the people involved without knowing the people involved, or at least what happened. It’s kinda unreasonable to assume that everyone involved is perfectly average because a significant chunk of the population isn’t part of “the vast majority.”
Trauma isn’t just for life threatening stuff, it’s essentially like having an event or series of events cause a switch to be installed in your brain which activates a feeling or a negative thought process you don’t really control. In a life threatening situation that feeling might be an overwhelming sense of danger and fear for your life or mistrust of people. If it’s loss related it is crushing reminders of your loss and how your life has changed.
In this instance I would imagine it is something more like : the uninteruptable thought process that other people don’t see you as fully human and that you are not a being worthy of basic respect and that something about you in particular invites abuse.
Something like that could be triggered just by showing up to your job and interrupting that thought process takes a lot of work because with trauma it’s basically instant. Working to disassociate the trigger from the feeling while still having to work to support yourself in jobs that reinforce that feeling would be hell. A lot of people who are living paycheck to paycheck are really harmed by just losing a few hours of work so even taking the time to leave and find a new job could create outsized financial issues.
Good sentencing by the judge and screw the woman who threw the food, but I find it a bit silly to go to therapy for “trauma” caused by having food thrown in your face. If she was burned that’s a different story, but I would assume the article would mention it if that were the case.
It could be the verbal abuse or the situation as a whole. Idk, everyone is different.
Right but the world is cruel, everyone you know will die and then you will too. You’ll probably shit yourself on the way out.
A burrito in the face (sans burns) is literally nothing.
No, a burrito to the face is physical abuse. Being verbally and physically abused every day of your job is not how jobs are supposed to work, and viewing things like that as silly small things to be affected by is itself pretty damaging.
If I lean across the counter and punch you in the head, you’re allowed to have some kind of feeling about that. Especially in a setting that heavily discourages and may even punish defending yourself, the way retail often does.
Convincing yourself it’s fine because the world is cruel keeps the world cruel. More importantly, it keeps you from considering you deserve anything other than cruelty. We need to care about each other.
It isn’t fine, your employer and your life should reflect that, but therapy for food in the face is weakness.
Totally aware the crowd here is all “self care, labels, wellness” and I’ll burn for this idea, but if we’re so broken that food to the face is needing another human to talk you through it for 60+ minutes then we are toast.
Good game.
The employer should pay, the criminal should pay. That should cover you.
Never worked in those type of environment huh? Those kinds of work wear you down little every shift, and shit like this mess with you.
Retail for 5, construction for 5. Truly, life is bigger than this. Fire service after that.
Again if you need another person to talk you through the situation of someone throwing food at you, to convince you you did nothing wrong, that the thrower is wrong, that their action is the wrong one, then you are weak.
I’m not saying you don’t deserve compensation or that you should just “take it”.
In my experience, the weakest people are the ones who don’t fix their issues, especially internal ones.
Agree, Mauro didn’t fix shit, and tried to blame downstream applications. Punk move.
He should have asked for coaching
“Hey I es self reviewed my code, checked the docs, but I’m getting some unexpected errors when testing some downstream applications. Can you help me step through my code to check for silly mistakes or somewhere I went off track? I reviewed the core project rules so I’m confident the trouble likely exists within my changes”
Bet that would get a very very different response.
Ok. Weak people exist. Hell, we all have some weaknesses. Is acknowledging them and working to improve not the right thing to do?
have you heard of the phrase ‘the straw that broke the camels back’?
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You got one thing right, you do need the therapist
For what?
I didn’t experience a situation beyond singular reason
In this case the situation was simple enough for anyone to understand. (burrito to the face, the person was rude, wrong, and reaponsible. I did nothing wrong. done)
Unless you think your stunted emotional capacity is a medical issue? But Im pretty sure the therapist is gonna need to take this one
Quantum immortality or biological immortality. Hell, basic empathy.
Burrempathy? How’s the dish doing
One-time verbal abuse from a stranger is not traumatizing, and neither is thrown food.
Were you there to witness the situation? Do you know exactly what happened and when?
Nope, but any one-time interaction with a stranger that doesn’t result in injury is not traumatizing for the vast majority of people. If it is, that just indicates they should have been in therapy already.
My point is you can’t judge the people involved without knowing the people involved, or at least what happened. It’s kinda unreasonable to assume that everyone involved is perfectly average because a significant chunk of the population isn’t part of “the vast majority.”
Trauma isn’t just for life threatening stuff, it’s essentially like having an event or series of events cause a switch to be installed in your brain which activates a feeling or a negative thought process you don’t really control. In a life threatening situation that feeling might be an overwhelming sense of danger and fear for your life or mistrust of people. If it’s loss related it is crushing reminders of your loss and how your life has changed.
In this instance I would imagine it is something more like : the uninteruptable thought process that other people don’t see you as fully human and that you are not a being worthy of basic respect and that something about you in particular invites abuse.
Something like that could be triggered just by showing up to your job and interrupting that thought process takes a lot of work because with trauma it’s basically instant. Working to disassociate the trigger from the feeling while still having to work to support yourself in jobs that reinforce that feeling would be hell. A lot of people who are living paycheck to paycheck are really harmed by just losing a few hours of work so even taking the time to leave and find a new job could create outsized financial issues.