• @xmunk@sh.itjust.works
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      100%, people who fetishize virginity are fucking weird and people who “preserve their virginity” usually have some weird culty background that they’ll need to work through.

      Sex is just sex.

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      For sex-only relations, sure. For a full on relationship? Nah, it has no bearing. I’ve dated a virgin that was manipulative as fuck, another that has been the best partner one could ask for, and have had similar experiences with those that have had past sexual encounters.

      Their sexual past or lack thereof frankly doesn’t matter. You need to look elsewhere for substantial indicators of their character and your compatibility.

    • TheEntity
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      Not for the abusers. They’d rather shape your experience and groom you into a perfect abuse victim.

    • Hyperreality
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      Eh.

      Some people take years to learn to play guitar poorly.

      Some people pick it up in a month.

      Natural talent and an ability to follow directions goes a long way.

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        Some people take years to learn to play guitar poorly.

        I feel they’re not training often enough to actually grow their skills in it.
        Natural talents do help but repetition, motivation and using time on it are probably the three most important aspects in learning (new) stuff.

      • I Cast Fist
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        If they play poorly after years, they don’t lack talent, they lack doing the right thing. If you train the wrong thing over and over thinking it’s right, you may never figure out the problem

    • @Linkerbaan@lemmy.world
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      The more partners someone has had the less likely they are to stay with one.

      If you’re looking for a one night stand then sure. For long term relationships though…

      • Damaskox
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        I disagree.

        More partners -> more experience + more learning about yourself -> knowing better what you need and want -> easier to find a suitable partner in a way that you know better what you need.

        I for one have been with a few ladies already and I value serious relationships much more than one night stands.
        I’ve been together with M’Lady (current) for more than a year.

      • @RBWells@lemmy.world
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        I’m older but no, no, no. Enjoying sex is important to me, and I think most people who enjoy sex got there with recreational sex. Both me & the husband had plenty of fun between relationships and both of us had had a 20 year monogamous run. Having sex with just one person is easier when you have the experience to know how good it is.