I’m letting people who hurt me in the past live rent free in my mind.
One episode involves a former landlord that tried to run me over in an intersection with no traffic cameras.
Another one involves a manager that fired me for informing that one of his favorites yelled during night shift and ignored alarms to talk. He fired me the next day, used the exit interview to tell me everything I didn’t do right (but kept quiet about his favorites, even though I did the job like them), still had the utmost confidence on his favorites, accused me of being lazy and instead of simply firing me and keeping neutral he chose to take it personal, proceeded to try to scare me insinuating I wouldn’t work for his system again, when that failed, tried to humiliate me and then fired me. This was in an non union hospital.
When I think about it I get angry. Id like not to be so thin skinned, but here I am.
These are shitty situations indeed, however it’s part of life, we all go (and will go) through shitty situations.
I assume you are an emotionally sensitive individual (which is an awesome trait!), so one of the things you can do is to tell yourself that their behavior is because of their own issues, it’s theirs, and not yours, and think about it like a ball or an object that you throw back to them. You can even laugh while you do it, because it’s actually funny when someone tries to throw his problems on you, but you throw it back on them!
People who act this way are 100% have problems, and their problems are theirs, and not yours.
For future situations, your anger for these situations might be a symptom of an underlying metal state.
I’m my opinion, therapy is the answer.