I just found out from my wife that if I continue to explore my non-binary identity outside of the confines of our house, she’s going to end up leaving me. Talk about a lose-lose scenario, fuck me. I really don’t want to hear the “you’re better off without her if she can’t be accepting” line of thinking. I get where you’d be going with that, but there’s a lot more going on beyond this wherein I need her.
The parent comment in this subthread seems to imply that filing first in a legal action is advantageous in that you’re more likely to win or get what you’re after. That has not been my experience, but I’d be curious to know if there is better than anecdotal data to back up that perspective.