So I’ve realized that in conversations I’ll use traditional terms for men as general terms for all genders, both singularly and for groups. I always mean it well, but I’ve been thinking that it’s not as inclusive to women/trans people.

For example I would say:

“What’s up guys?” “How’s it going man?” "Good job, my dude!” etc.

Replacing these terms with person, people, etc sounds awkward. Y’all works but sounds very southern US (nowhere near where I am located) so it sounds out of place.

So what are some better options?

Edit: thanks for all the answers peoples, I appreciate the honest ones and some of the funny ones.

The simplest approach is to just drop the usage of guys, man, etc. Folks for groups and mate for singular appeal to me when I do want to add one in between friends.

    • Riven@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      12·
      9 months ago

      Probably because people have been using it since the 90s for either gender. Same with dude. I was in high school over a decade ago but back then I remember dude and guys being gender neutral, both guys and girls used it that way. Funnily enough this same conversation was happening back then too among my peers, and we all agreed it was already gender neutral at the time.

      • nomen_dubium@startrek.website
        4·
        9 months ago

        ah fair… we used dudette cos it’s funny but i get the point…

        guess i never thought about it much cos i jumped on the chance to be encouraged to use all the sillier alternatives at work etc haha

    • Pwnmode@lemmy.world
      8·
      9 months ago

      Coming from a Midwestern state in US, guys, is a very common word. I would say GenX/Millennials use it most, can’t speak for GenZ much, or Alpha as I never know what they are saying anyway.