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My gf is bi and will actively send me pictures of models of characters calling them hot and asking if I think they are
It’s pretty nice to have a gf that you can actively call people hot too
I’m bi and every relationship I’ve had was like this. Drooling over people and characters together is just something I like to do in relationships. It’s a fun bonding activity. Plus it’s weirdly good for my self confidence for somebody to be drooling over somebody else who even I know is hot as fuck but they still clearly want to be with me more.
Bit of a difference when you’re in some sort of open relationship.
I was more thinking maybe closeted cuckquean but even then it’d be a stupid thing to do.
What the everliving fuck. Of course I ask all my partners to give consent before I add someone new to my polycule. Every single time. Do you add new people to your polycule without consulting your partners just because they’re polyamorous? That’s cheating.
I don’t have to “tell” my partners I’m poly, because I don’t cheat. If you think you can just tell your partners you’re poly and then date whoever you want, you’re wrong and that’s a dangerous belief. Please never tell anyone else that polyamoury works like that, because it doesn’t. I’ve had to educate far too many partners who thought like you and would have cheated on me if I hadn’t been careful to establish explicit boundaries.
No, I’ve actually only ever had two partners who were monoamorous by default. The first two. Everyone afterwards immediately knew I was poly without having to be told. And was poly too. I mean I would have asked them to consent to being metamours with all my existing partners anyway so definitely no cheating since you brought that weird point up. But if you’re now deciding the point is people’s assumptions, everyone I know assumes people are poly. If someone in my circles is monoam they actually have it listed in their bio so everyone knows not to flirt with them.
Sounds like I just have gayer friends than you do and you’re assuming everyone is like your boring friends.
Decent point, but I also think it’s good to explicitly discuss monogamy as well. Even if you don’t use that word but only say “are we in a relationship”, it’s good to define the moment when the exclusivity begins.
For example I’ve had one date with a woman, and she was busy on my second attempt. I’d love to see her again but I’m unsure whether I will. Would I be a cheater if I went on a date with another woman right now?
If you didn’t enter a relationship with them, then it is not technically cheating. However, if you really like them to a point where you’d like to be in a relationship with them, then the decent & morally right thing would still be to wait with dating other people. This is similar to people who just broke up. You’re expected to still have emotional feelings to your former partner and while you’re technically single now it would still be very weird if you’d just hop onto the next person because it questions the honesty behind your feelings for said person. It’s simply decency, not just towards others, but also towards yourself. Either way, in your example I would at the very least communicate whether they’d be okay with you dating other people if you’re at a point where there’s clearly something going on between the two of you.
Statistics, original meaning of a romantic relationship?
It’s been called open marriage or open relationship for a reason. Because the default assumption was it’s not. There’s even that weird term “cheating”.
Everyone acts like monogamous relationships are normal because they are. And polyamorous relationships are an exception. You’ll have to deal with it.
They shouldn’t. Lots of people don’t even know polyamoury is an option, and they’re groomed from early childhood to understand relationships as exclusive and to get jealous. That’s a toxic culture. It’s okay to have complicated and difficult feelings, that’s part of being human, but it’s not okay to pressure children into sharing those feelings as they get older.
I’d say not to waste your time on girls who play these kinds of games. That’s a weird question to ask your S.O. no matter how you swing it.
Not always My gf is bi and will actively send me pictures of models of characters calling them hot and asking if I think they are It’s pretty nice to have a gf that you can actively call people hot too
I suppose I didn’t consider swinging it from that angle.
I’m bi and every relationship I’ve had was like this. Drooling over people and characters together is just something I like to do in relationships. It’s a fun bonding activity. Plus it’s weirdly good for my self confidence for somebody to be drooling over somebody else who even I know is hot as fuck but they still clearly want to be with me more.
I ask my SOs that kind of question. We’re bi polyamorous sluts.
Bit of a difference when you’re in some sort of open relationship. I was more thinking maybe closeted cuckquean but even then it’d be a stupid thing to do.
Why does everyone in straight society act like closed relationships are normal and have to make an exception for poly relationships? That’s so weird.
Also I’m not in an open relationship if you think open relationship means what I think it means.
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What the everliving fuck. Of course I ask all my partners to give consent before I add someone new to my polycule. Every single time. Do you add new people to your polycule without consulting your partners just because they’re polyamorous? That’s cheating.
I don’t have to “tell” my partners I’m poly, because I don’t cheat. If you think you can just tell your partners you’re poly and then date whoever you want, you’re wrong and that’s a dangerous belief. Please never tell anyone else that polyamoury works like that, because it doesn’t. I’ve had to educate far too many partners who thought like you and would have cheated on me if I hadn’t been careful to establish explicit boundaries.
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No, I’ve actually only ever had two partners who were monoamorous by default. The first two. Everyone afterwards immediately knew I was poly without having to be told. And was poly too. I mean I would have asked them to consent to being metamours with all my existing partners anyway so definitely no cheating since you brought that weird point up. But if you’re now deciding the point is people’s assumptions, everyone I know assumes people are poly. If someone in my circles is monoam they actually have it listed in their bio so everyone knows not to flirt with them.
Sounds like I just have gayer friends than you do and you’re assuming everyone is like your boring friends.
Do you even have any otherkin friends?
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Decent point, but I also think it’s good to explicitly discuss monogamy as well. Even if you don’t use that word but only say “are we in a relationship”, it’s good to define the moment when the exclusivity begins.
For example I’ve had one date with a woman, and she was busy on my second attempt. I’d love to see her again but I’m unsure whether I will. Would I be a cheater if I went on a date with another woman right now?
If you didn’t enter a relationship with them, then it is not technically cheating. However, if you really like them to a point where you’d like to be in a relationship with them, then the decent & morally right thing would still be to wait with dating other people. This is similar to people who just broke up. You’re expected to still have emotional feelings to your former partner and while you’re technically single now it would still be very weird if you’d just hop onto the next person because it questions the honesty behind your feelings for said person. It’s simply decency, not just towards others, but also towards yourself. Either way, in your example I would at the very least communicate whether they’d be okay with you dating other people if you’re at a point where there’s clearly something going on between the two of you.
Statistics, original meaning of a romantic relationship?
It’s been called open marriage or open relationship for a reason. Because the default assumption was it’s not. There’s even that weird term “cheating”.
Everyone acts like monogamous relationships are normal because they are. And polyamorous relationships are an exception. You’ll have to deal with it.
They shouldn’t. Lots of people don’t even know polyamoury is an option, and they’re groomed from early childhood to understand relationships as exclusive and to get jealous. That’s a toxic culture. It’s okay to have complicated and difficult feelings, that’s part of being human, but it’s not okay to pressure children into sharing those feelings as they get older.
Because that’s the social and societal norm. Regardless of how progressive a lot of the issues have been/are.
In my unfortunate experience, chicks who are jealous and play these games will also cheat on you.