I am currently in a social event and I am too exhausted to have conversations, so I figured I just pretend I’m busy texting by writing this post. I have to stay here for at least two more hours and I have two more (social) things to do tomorrow… one of them I’ll probably cancel because it is just too much but I did not think of an excuse yet… I feel dishonest and I really hate it, but I also didn’t have really good experiences coming out as autistic… it has never felt accomodating and often pretty invalidating. My depression has been hitting harder than usual, which is extra hard because I have to pretend I am okay just to avoid interactions I can’t handle right now. So anywhere I’m not even trying to make a point here I just need something to keep be busy and not make me look weird. Anyways, wish me luck idk, I’m really not enjoying life a lot rn :I
Edit: thanks a lot everyone! I read the replies several times, it has been reassuring and as a plus it kept me busy yesterday. :)
I am done going to private social gatherings that I don’t enjoy. They are usually optional and if not I find a good reason why I can’t go. I don’t even need to lie. Usually I just say that I’m under the weather and don’t feel up to meeting a lot of people. Which is all true. Since I occasionally suffer from migraines, most people will assume that as a reason but that’s not my problem. Work meetings are usually dispassionate enough that I can endure them if they are not back to back.
I know im a bit late to the party… sorry bad joke, but i hope your feeling better. Being at social gatherigs is taxing as fuck and that with depression is not a good combo. Take care of yourself!
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I personally only go to social gatherings to show support to the organiser, if they’re someone I consider close - otherwise it’s optional attendance from my perspective
I’m not a very interesting individual outside of a few niche topics, and trying to socialise with people is really draining, especially if there’s no common thing to discuss. I stay away from most mainstream things that I don’t care about, so a lot of (for lack of a better term) “normie” media & topics are out the window.
After running out of energy, being constantly asked “are you fine” by various concerned guests can get a bit bothersome… although the gesture is much appreciated I just want some space to myself.
My go to, “Stomach Problems”. It’s slightly embarrassing, but ain’t no one gonna ask a follow-up question. Bonus believability if you order some sushi or otherwise dodgy food.
best thing to do is always avoid social events. avoid all contact. playing mmos is best. also convert house into fortress with remote cams and weapons systems.
say sorry i cant make it. done. why are you guys always needing bs excuses. maybe i just dont get that as a german.
well if I want to maintain the few people around me that I have I kinda have to try not letting them down too much. I hate excuses too and that’s why I just pull through a lot of these situations.
