I think you’re being a little disingenuous. The two conversations are not only both important, but they’re both closely related to each other. It’s impossible to talk about the mental well being of half the population without the other half coming up, since a lot of the problems and their solutions are the same.
It is very possible to focus on half the population being told to ‘man up’ and the gender specific meaning that phrase has since it does not apply to the other half. Just like we can focus on women being told to smile more without needing to drag men’s vaguely related experiences into it.
I’m saying it’s not a gender specific issue, but I guess you’d rather play a victim. If you want experience from a men’s perspective, I have zero issue with emotional support when I’m talking to girls I can trust.
I think that you are both wrong and right. Societal treatment of mental health issues is indeed quite poor regardless of gender. However, it is important to realize that there ARE differences that relate directly to one’s presenting gender.
Just as women are not taken seriously by health professionals, men are frequently treated as less-than by western culture at-large, if we show anything but chauvinistic bravado. This lack of care has had a profound impact on both young and old men who have any mental illness, leading to isolation, and becoming vulnerable to radicalization by those actively preying on them and using them as tools of violence or suicide.
It’s a real, gender-specific problem that is well-encapsulated in the proverb “A child not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.”
I’m saying the complete opposite of “be a man” that support is out there for men. Are you even attempting to read comments in good faith, or are you reading some completely different text that isn’t there?
So you disagree with the premise that men who reach out are told by society to be a man instead, and want to bring up women’s problems instead of acknowledging the problem because you have ‘girls you can trust’. To top it off you respond to someone pointing out your whataboutism by accusing someone of ‘playing the victim’.
That is what I am responding to, you dismissing the issue while claiming that are aren’t and doing the exact thing being discussed in your responses.
Alright I think this convo is done since you are clearly taking this in bad faith after I clarified multiple times that is nothing close to what I said. Find a strawman somewhere else to argue against.
I’m really sorry to hear about what you’re going through. I’ve removed your comment and the rest of this chain to avoid derailing and because we are not really equipped for those sorts of conversations. Mental health resources on the fediverse are still in the early stages but there is !mentalhealth@lemmy.world that you may consider reaching out to.
Please don’t. You are a worthwhile human being. You may be able to find resources through a national or international organization, if they are not available locally.
You indeed aren’t asking a lot but the basics that any human is entitled to.
Females aren’t in any better of a situation. Mental health support funding is non existent and fucking me over right now :(
When discussing men’s experiences the most important thing is switching the conversation to women’s experiences.
High fives all around!
I think you’re being a little disingenuous. The two conversations are not only both important, but they’re both closely related to each other. It’s impossible to talk about the mental well being of half the population without the other half coming up, since a lot of the problems and their solutions are the same.
It is very possible to focus on half the population being told to ‘man up’ and the gender specific meaning that phrase has since it does not apply to the other half. Just like we can focus on women being told to smile more without needing to drag men’s vaguely related experiences into it.
I’m saying it’s not a gender specific issue, but I guess you’d rather play a victim. If you want experience from a men’s perspective, I have zero issue with emotional support when I’m talking to girls I can trust.
I think that you are both wrong and right. Societal treatment of mental health issues is indeed quite poor regardless of gender. However, it is important to realize that there ARE differences that relate directly to one’s presenting gender.
Just as women are not taken seriously by health professionals, men are frequently treated as less-than by western culture at-large, if we show anything but chauvinistic bravado. This lack of care has had a profound impact on both young and old men who have any mental illness, leading to isolation, and becoming vulnerable to radicalization by those actively preying on them and using them as tools of violence or suicide.
It’s a real, gender-specific problem that is well-encapsulated in the proverb “A child not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.”
Guess which hand you are in the picture.
I’m saying the complete opposite of “be a man” that support is out there for men. Are you even attempting to read comments in good faith, or are you reading some completely different text that isn’t there?
So you disagree with the premise that men who reach out are told by society to be a man instead, and want to bring up women’s problems instead of acknowledging the problem because you have ‘girls you can trust’. To top it off you respond to someone pointing out your whataboutism by accusing someone of ‘playing the victim’.
That is what I am responding to, you dismissing the issue while claiming that are aren’t and doing the exact thing being discussed in your responses.
Alright I think this convo is done since you are clearly taking this in bad faith after I clarified multiple times that is nothing close to what I said. Find a strawman somewhere else to argue against.
Saying “I am not hitting you” while hitting someone doesn’t mean you aren’t hitting them.
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I’m really sorry to hear about what you’re going through. I’ve removed your comment and the rest of this chain to avoid derailing and because we are not really equipped for those sorts of conversations. Mental health resources on the fediverse are still in the early stages but there is !mentalhealth@lemmy.world that you may consider reaching out to.
Please don’t. You are a worthwhile human being. You may be able to find resources through a national or international organization, if they are not available locally.
You indeed aren’t asking a lot but the basics that any human is entitled to.